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June 1, 2006, 3:49 am PDT
Yea.. that's what I said..
Quote From: jai149I had my first child quite young as well. I now have a son who is 3, a daughter who is 2 and am expecting our third child in December. But I wouldnt change anything for the world. Yes I missed out on alot of the experiances you have growing up but it doesnt matter. What matters is that I have a family the I cherish. They make everyday worth getting up for. It does sound to me too that you are very bitter and angry about what you suposidly "missed-out" on. Not everyone gets the white-picket fence. If I had the choice of doing it all over again, I would change a thing - my kids win everytime. I suggest you speak to someone about your feelings. Putting up with the good, bad and ugly is part of every relationship - good or not. If you think that perfect relationship actually exsists - your kidding yourself. Everyone has problems. I think you should look at what you've got , rather than what you havent - some people dont even have that. "Putting up with the good, bad and ugly is part of every relationship - good or not.".. Did I not say that?? I was simply telling people who want to have children to look at angles.. It isn't all playtime and cute stuff and people need to realize that before they go getting pregnant. As far as speaking to someone about my feelings, I really don't think I need to- these are the same feelings all mothers share whether they admit it or not. Nobody can tell me that at 3 in the morning when their baby is screaming its ear off in their ear they haven't thought about how wonderful it would be to get a full night's rest. I am bitter and angry, but not about having children- I'm bitter and angry at myself for bringing a child into this world while in an abusive relationship. I'm bitter and angry that people continue to bring children into this world daily and intentionally to try to "fix" troubled relationships when they're only complicating things more by bringing in a poor little soul to witness the destruction. I love my children. I love the man I'm with now- he's a very good man and is adopting my daughter tomorrow afternoon. My life is back in one piece, but I'm very lucky to be able to say that. People who get pregnant because they want someone to love them unconditionally, or because they think its going to insure their relationship to be a lasting one, or because they think it's going to change their partner need to wake up and smell the coffee. A baby should not be looked at as a solution to any relationship problems, but rather something the couple can reward themselves with when the problems get worked out.
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