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June 1, 2006, 3:03 pm PDT

Thank God you're NOT my parents!!

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Neither you or your husband know what you are doing. I could not believe your husband told Dr. Phil that he was "not going to lie" to his daughter when she asks how she has just performed. He completely missed the point when Dr. Phil diplomatically suggested that he WAIT before he pointed out the negatives. You and your husband just don't get it. You both sounded like a (defensive) broken record - "she pushes US" and "she wants this." As Dr. Phil said SHE IS NINE. Do either of you even remember what it was like to be a child. And Kara, the way you glared at your mother-in-law makes me wonder what your own mother was like. As for your husband, I am embarrassed for his mother. You should both be ashamed. You have met with an objective professional (Dr. Phil) but you both have selective hearing. Your daughter would not be a QUITTER if she scaled back her singing schedule a bit. BOTH of your have TAKEN your daughter's interest to an EXTREME. Does ANYONE actually agree with your POOR parenting approach? Perhaps that should say something. You both need to study child development; you bother are actually doing more harm than good (however you choose to justify it).
Hello Kara's Parents: What are you thinking???? That poor child....pushed, pushed, pushed to always exceed & be a straight A student & to play many sports & practice & sing & sing & practice....all I can say is I'm glad my Father & Grandparents let me be a child....I was allowed to run & play & imagine & write stories & draw pictures & express myself.....when I showed an interest in anything, I was given the chance to try singing or whatever it was keeping things in balance...maybe you might consider THAT CONCEPT???? A child needs guidance & balance; not to be pushed & molded into what their parents want them to be....isn't it sad how some parents are not involved with their children & then there are parents who don't let their children breath???? Guess which category you're in???? Maybe what I'm saying is harsh, but you sure didn't listen to diplomatic Dr. Phil...God bless him...he truly tried to get you to see the truth......
 

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June 1, 2006, 3:22 pm PDT

06/01 "My Kid's a Star"

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Neither you or your husband know what you are doing. I could not believe your husband told Dr. Phil that he was "not going to lie" to his daughter when she asks how she has just performed. He completely missed the point when Dr. Phil diplomatically suggested that he WAIT before he pointed out the negatives. You and your husband just don't get it. You both sounded like a (defensive) broken record - "she pushes US" and "she wants this." As Dr. Phil said SHE IS NINE. Do either of you even remember what it was like to be a child. And Kara, the way you glared at your mother-in-law makes me wonder what your own mother was like. As for your husband, I am embarrassed for his mother. You should both be ashamed. You have met with an objective professional (Dr. Phil) but you both have selective hearing. Your daughter would not be a QUITTER if she scaled back her singing schedule a bit. BOTH of your have TAKEN your daughter's interest to an EXTREME. Does ANYONE actually agree with your POOR parenting approach? Perhaps that should say something. You both need to study child development; you bother are actually doing more harm than good (however you choose to justify it).
I just don't understand why you and your husband went on the show to begin with, as it was clear that you did not want to hear what the doctor had to say to you, and also clear that you were mad about anything he did say.  Is this punishment?  You must be kidding lady.  You are pushing so hard you are going to push this 9 yo girl away from you, so far away from you, and in years to come you will hopefully regret it.  I think that you should be turned over to the authorities for mental and emotional abuse, as it is clear that you have some real issues that you need to deal with in yourself, that you are taking out on this little girl.  I felt so bad for her watching this show, so bad.  Thank God for grandma.  She is a baby and what you and your husband are doing to a little girl of that age is emotionally crippling to say the least.  I only hope that people that hire you to bring this little girl to sing at thier functions, cease to call you after seeing this show and seeing how abusive you are to your child.  Shame, shame, shame on you.  I hope that you get help, serious help, because you are going to destroy a little one's esteem, emotional stability and heart.  I felt ashamed of you watching the way you are with her, and ashamed of a father who would go along with his little girl being treated that way by her mother.  You give "being a mother" a bad name.  But, you won't listen to anyone, so why am I writing this?   If there is any punishment in this, it should go to you and your husband for the treatment you dish out to this little girl.  So, to answer your question, is this punishment, yes and the worst kind for something she should not be punished for, when it should be you and pop there, handed out by child protection agencies for what you are doing. 
 


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