Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

Some call homosexuality an inborn natural thing while other's will say that homosexuality is the result of Gender Identity Disorder.   

And this is what the debate is all about:)   

One thing I do know from personal experience is that I never chose to be attracted to the same-sex and this is the problem because I am also a Christian.  I have come to believe that healing from homosexuality is possable because, to a degree this is what I have experienced.   

I don't believe that just because I may have natural tendency's toward's the same-sex that I should then embrace this as being healthy.  As a Christian I believe that I have a choice with my behavior but I don't always have a choice in the battles that I face in life.  I do believe that God's grace is tayler made and precision cut for my needs in any of my circumstances.   

Is homosexuality a mental disorder?  Let's be careful with that one:)   

I believe that there are root causes to homosexuality and it shows the need for some deep inner healing but I don't believe that taking a pill is the answer to solving this issue.   

There are genetic factors to alcoholism.  My Grandfather's an alcoholic, my father's an alcoholic and my twin brother is an alcoholic and I am not going to drink to find out if I too am an alcoholic but given the circumstances I have chosen not to drink.  I enjoy my sobriety very much so but there exists in my case a genetic pre-disposition towards addiction/alcoholism.     

In light of this, I believe that there could be some genetic factors involved in the make-up of how I have perceived my environment and how I responded to the environment that I grew up in, which was filled with much abuse.     

All the scientific research studies that have been done, have never been done to discredit environmental factors and not enough research realy shows that genetic's play a larg role in one's sexual orientation.  No one can truthfuly say that homosexuality is inborn and no one can truthfuly say that there is absolutly no genetic factors involved.  And no one can say that being gay is a choice.  Behavior is always a choice which is different from the tendency towards same-sex attraction.   This to say the least makes this issue quite complex.   

I suggest that people check out Focus On The Family and some of their material if one truly wants to hear more about a redemptive way of reaching out to those who struggle homosexualy and for those who wish to learn a redemptive Christian response to the issue.    

There you have it.   

God Bless you,   

Thank you for asking such a good question. And PLEASE do not take the word of the other poster who said she "changed" her homosexuality because she is a Chrisitian!!! She directed you to that absurd Focus on the Family site where they try and "turn you straight"! It doesn't work that way!! There have been absolutely NO survivors of this Focus on the Family Cult that have come out of the experience and were straight. None. Zero. Zip. The founders of the damn thing even came out as still being homosexual, even to the point of renouncing their affiliation with this cult! And anyone who says they came out straight is lying. They are just being celibate. Or they were bisexual to begin with. There is no turning one way or the other. But that's beside the point. Back to your question.  

No, homosexuality is not a mental disorder. In fact, it was taken out of all psychological literature as being so many years ago. Being homosexual is no different than being straight. We all feel love, pain, exstacy, anger, etc, etc. We all pay bills, pay taxes, own homes, have cars, have children, etc, yet we are denied the same rights. The sooner this country comes to realize that we are all HUMAN, then we will live in a happier world.   

I know you are not asking this question out of malicious intent, and I hope I am not coming off as being defensive. I commend you for taking the time to ask such an important question. Feel free to ask me anything else you like about homosexuality. I believe that most of the hate in this world comes from ignorance. So it is better to ask and be well informed, than to assume you know everything about a topic even though it doesn't effect you life!  

Take care!  

Jayde  

I don't think it is a mental disorder at all.  I think it is a biological thing that people are wired for.  Actually, it seems almost more of a mental issue to deny one's self of who they truly are.   

I adore and love my husband, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't occationally sexually and emotionally attracted to other females.  I don't act on it because I would consider it cheating - just as if it was a man and so I've learned to move away from those friendships if I feel they could become inappropriate.  I guess that would make my nature bi-sexual.  I don't think I'm mental though at all.  It's just a natural inclination I seem to have.  I also have learned not to become freaked out about it or run around wondering if I'm gay or not.  I guess if I'd have fallen in love with a gal instead of a guy, I'd still be this way - like it was just natural for me.