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June 11, 2006, 6:36 pm PDT
The Meaning of "Family"
Quote From: jenoc99It is understandable that your husband wouldn't want to be anywhere near the man who raped you, but it sounds like you are placing blame on him (your husband) for the fact that your family is estranged from you now. You said that "the truth would've never came out if my hubby hadn't put his food down about how he feels about this..." but from what you describe, it sounds like he wanted to protect you from this coming out- because if he had gone to gatherings in the past, he probably would have said or done something himself. It is understandable that you love your aunt, and its understandable that you didn't speak up back then because you probably were in shock and disbelief. I urge you to seek professional counceling for yourself as soon as possible! When your aunt's husband violated you, he changed who you are as a person. Its time for you to take your power back!! You deserve to be happy and enjoy healthy relationships. Seek help soon! I understand too, how you feel. I was assaulted by my own father at age 7 while my mother was in the hospital having my baby brother. I never told anyone either. My husband knows and to this day he does not like to go to family functions. He has yet to mention it to the family but I am waiting. I have finally told my mom about 6 months ago. But never have I mentioned to my father. I dont even know if he remembers the situation. I think my father was on drugs at the time. I feel for you that your family sided with the aunts husband. If I was you.. I would just cling to my husband and let it pass. Your husband is your future. Give your family time. Your husband evidenttally loves you alot.
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