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September 6, 2005, 7:28 am PDT

shoes in hand

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I thought I did  this right, geting her off to school, But Now  it is all back to an awful way for  achild to experience everyday life. 

 My  6yr suddenly complains of her feet hurting, Wont wear shoes.  Last night she wore them. She missed the bus this morning because she wouldn't get her shoes on.  I try to help her dressing all it does is make more upset.  I just dont get it. 

  Put the shoes in her backpack or a bag and let her go without...that way daughter still is taking responsibility for getting on the bus on time and has some control over the situation (when to put the shoes on) She mostly did  this as a power struggle to keep you around and find your reaction to the situation... kids are funny like that...
 
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October 11, 2005, 9:57 pm PDT

Things That Worked For Us

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I thought I did  this right, geting her off to school, But Now  it is all back to an awful way for  achild to experience everyday life. 

 My  6yr suddenly complains of her feet hurting, Wont wear shoes.  Last night she wore them. She missed the bus this morning because she wouldn't get her shoes on.  I try to help her dressing all it does is make more upset.  I just dont get it. 

  

You just really need to make her understand that you're the boss and she isn't.  I always tell my kids when they grow up and have their own kids---that's when it's their turn to be the boss.  Certain things, for instance putting on her shoes to go to school , just have to be done.  period.  she needs to understand that it's not open for discussion.  things will run alot smoother, once she is positive without a doubt, who is in charge.    

 


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