Replies to 'Should We Get Pregnant?'

I understand all too well how you are felling and what you are going through right now, I have been there myself.  Both my parents are drug addicts and I raised my younger sister.  Growing up in this situation is tough.  I am one of the lucky ones though. I moved out of home at 14 , about a year later I met my now husband and we started living together.  I went back for my little sister, who we put through high school.  I am now 25 and my sister is now 19 and going to university to be a lawyer.  My husband and I have been married for 6 years (lived together for 9 years) and we have two beautiful children 2 and 3, and are expecting our 3rd in December.  I have had alot of growing up to do, and I had to do it quickly.  Only threw experiance have I come to realise that children dont fill that emptiness that you are feeling, and trust me I know that feeling well.  Only you can fill the void.  I few of my friends are single mums and they do it pretty tough, emotionally and financially.  Its not easy raising children on your own.  You really need to think here, how will you support a baby?  Where will you live, you know how hard it is growing up in a house with your parents - do you want to put another child threw that?, Without education what sort of a job will you have?  I didnt finish school and already I am worried about what I will do when my kids go off to school - I dont want to work in a bar the rest of my life.  If you need something to be proud of - BE PROUD OF YOU!  You are raising your brother and trust me one day he will thank you deeply for it, Finish your education, live your life, get a job and save some money for a house - build a life that your proud to have created then think about having kids.  Dont repeat the cycle that your parents have made.  I do my best every day to make sure that my kids dont grow up in the type of home I did, and I am sure you want the same for your children.  I check these message boards pretty much every day , if you every need to talk - just post.