Quote From: stickzzzzzHi I am a 32 yr old mother. I am in fact married, we only have one child together a 1 1/2 yr old daughter. My husband however, has a child from a previous relationship, who we never see. Anyhow, me and husband got together 6yrs ago, and after two yrs of dating got married. We talked seriously about life, children, the future etc. Back then, we agreed to have a handful of children.
After having the one baby, I'm not sure if I wanna have anymore children. It's such a tough job being a mom. Having to wait on someone hand and foot, waking up in the middle of the night, pampers, bottles, crying. AGH! I always thought I wanted children and lots of em. I'm great with kids if their not mine. The one's you can give back are the best, I know I'm sounding very selfish and I know I am. I love my daughter to death, she's great, she's at a good age NOW where she's getting more independent, taking care of herself, and I'm feeling so relieved and much happier. BUT my husband wants to have another one right away, he wanted to start when she was 1 for god sakes! I'm just not ready for that yet. He keeps bringing up the subject lately, over and over and over. I told him yesterday we would start the beginning of July but I know I'm not ready, I can feel it! He's still set on a handful of children and having them close in age, and what if I don't want anymore after the second? This morning while lying in bed, I brought up if he would leave me if i didn't want have more than two kids, and he didn't say anything!? So what now, my marriage is done because he wants more kids and I don't? I sure don't wanna be a single mother with 2 kids. I just don't know what I should do!? I myself think I'm compromising on my part by having one more child but just not right away. How can I tell him I'm not ready to start in a few weeks? Can someone help me palease!!! and try and answer all my questions, thank you!
Happy with one!
You are right, being a mum is a tough job! I understand how you feel about this. I am a 25 year old stay at home mum to two beautiful children - a son who is three and a daughter who is two. In fact there are only 13 months between them. I am also expecting number 3 in December. When my husband and I got married (6 years ago) we talked about kids etc. I wanted 5 and he wanted 2. So we compromised with 3. All I can say is that having children closer together is not only a great advantage for them, but also for you. My kids are best of friends, its such a pleasure watching them interact with each other all day. My daughter actually speaks on a three year old level which I credit partilly to being with her brother all day. As for me - I am a huge believer in "I'm tired now, I cant get much more tired" I am happy to have these few years of nappies, bottles, broken sleep. It doesnt last forever and one thing I've learnt is that is goes really quickly. There not babies for long. Another added bonus is that when the kids are all grown up and fly the nest you are still young enough to have a life again yourself. If you really feel like you are just not ready (when are we ever really ready though hey!) talk to your husband. Explain to him how you feel. He obviously feels really strongly about it but if you explain your side he might just understand. Good luck with all.
