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June 12, 2006, 4:38 pm PDT
Relationship Myths
Quote From: sandy0914It seems that your husband is afraid of getting hurt, afraid of wearing his heart on his sleeve - that's why he has this emotional wall up. He's afraid that he can't take it down and if he does - will he get hurt. He knows he has this problem but he probably doesn't know how to fix it. The only way to fix it is through counseling. You need to tell him exactly how you are feeling and what you are thinking. He is cheating you out of a life of intimacy, happiness, and love. You do deserve all of this and he just may not be able to provide you with these marital necessities.
Plss do not look towards other men - get back into counseling, tell him exactly how you feel and then make a decision you can live with. If he cared for you he would at least try and put his own insecurities aside. Thanks for the insight. I agree but it is so hard to bring up counseling or anything else again as it seems we just keep going through the same things over and over. I have blame too but I have consciously been trying to do the things that he needs and trying not to do my normal building of walls, etc., it just seems that i'm getting to the point where I just don't care anymore and I can't see why he wouldn't be feeling the same way. You are right though, I do deserve it and so does he, he deserves to be happy also. That is scary though, what if he can't provide me with those marital necessities? As much as we can't get along, it sure does hurt to think of going through a separation or divorce!
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