Replies to 'Having a Baby Has Changed My Life'

Quote From: tbjbcblb

When I read your story about your husband being wonderful in so many ways but lacking in others I thought of my situation. I have been married for 7 years. We had a failed pregnancy in 02 and then in 04 we were blessed with a son and just 3 months ago with a daughter. I get a lot of help from my husband and he is really good with the children but sometimes I wonder how he thinks I handle it when he is not there. I work full time and my children go to the same daycare. After picking them up I go home, unload them and "handle" them until he arrives 1 to 2 hours later. Sometimes 3 if he gets caught up in a meeting. Well the other day I was 3 miles down the road at HEB and he called asking when I would be done cause both children were screaming. Of course I had to run home, hold my daughter and my son at the same time. When I discuss my frustraion with my husband to anyone I always get the same response..."You should be thankful he helps you cause most men don't." Ok, I understand this but he helped make these children and he will help care for them. I will not accept anything less of equals in this relationship. Then I think about how people think men deserve a gold star for helping but where the heck is my gold star. I do this everyday. I get them ready, get them to school, to the dr, I do the shopping with the kids, and I get what. No one praises me to my husband that he should be thankful I help. That is our job. We are the moms. I think long and hard about this and I take it is stride that I am the one that bore these children and before anyone or anything else they need me. Most kids want their mom when they are sick and this is why. There is something special between a mom and her child. Something no man can ever understand and never will.