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Quote From: disstinks

my husband and i have been married going on 3 years in september and 2 purely angelic babys. the problem is that we love eachother we jut dont like eachother. we have had problems since right before we got married but i thought it was just wedding jitts. well, it started when he wouldnt spend any time with me. example: i would ask him to sit with me and watch a movie, or just cuddle and he said his back hurt. so i was like fine. but then he would get on his hands and knees and crawl around the living room floor with our cat and have so much fun with the cat i was sitting there thinking what in the world is wrong with me?? soon i ended up crying every night alone in my bedroom while he rolled his eyes and comforted me none what so ever. 4 months later i left and told him to file for divorce. i was staying with a friend, he was buddy-buddy with MY family, and i felt so neglected and to top it all off it was the one year anniversary of my grannies death that i took so hard i had to go to counseling...i was a rock bottom. i gave my heart to a man like no other i had ever met, i was coping with the death of Granny that was just heartwrenching since we used to talk almost daily and i was holding her hand with her last breathe, and finally when i needed my family to lean on they betrayed me and pal'd up with the my husband. we finally got back together and  things were back normal before all the problems for a few weeks and then after i found out we were having our first baby the same old thing with his back hurting came back, but this time he didnt want to show me affection b/c he was afraid to. i was pregnant and he didnt want to hurt me. but at the end of the day he still wanted sex...the part i dont understand is this. if you love someone so deeply to marry them how can you watch them cry daily, literally, and consciously hurt them the same way time after time and then turn your back and walk away from them and carry on with your activities like nothing happened. NOW, we argue all the time and we have moved an hour away from all my family and friends to be close to his work. my dad just had heart surgery and my mom is going through her own struggles with her health and here i am all alone an hour away with nobody, and broke as crap and cant afford the gas money to drive there more than every other week and i am miserable. I have always had family close by that i knew i could count on if i needed them. i dont like being lonely. and its not cuz i want to stay right under mom and dad. its just that my mom had 2 heartattacks when i was 6 months pregnant with my first baby and the doctors gave her very slim chances of making it and she was on life support, it was awful and i realize now what people take for granted. i love my parents and i want my kids to know them and i want to be there while they are still here b/c one day they wont be. and i know your thinking ONE hour, thats it, but with a close relationship with my family it feels worlds away to me. but anyhow, good news is the lease is up april 2007 the bad news is i dont know if i can stay sane till then. i'm a country girl to the core, and here in the city  apartment and no yard, privacy, etc. i just hate it!!!! i'm stuck in this apartment with the same 4 walls everyday. WHAT DO I DO???? Divorce? what? begging for advice....