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June 17, 2006, 9:28 am PDT
 Quote From: beckyleigh My husband has done me the same way, except not with my best friend. He has been living away from home with no communication to me. I have heard plenty about what he has been doing, a stripper he met in a bar! I have been really sick thinking about this, I have loved this man and devoted my life to him. It hurts terribly. Then all of a sudden on Thursday night he just appears at our house and tells me that he is coming home. He has been gone for 2 months, has not helped pay one bill, and has been involved with a stripper. I told him that he cannot do me like this, he can't just come home and expect me to be okay with that. Though I do love and miss him, he has really hurt me. He is still here, today is Saturday. He told me that he broke it off with the stripper, that she fell in love with him, but he did not love her. He is saying that he loves only me. What do I do? I feel like he would not have ever been with her if he loved me. I cannot trust him. He has just moved back in and resumed like nothing ever happened. I am going crazy. He has not appologized. He acts as if there is no problem. I want my husband, but I can't seem to get over this. And, when will he do this again? I have prayed just like you......I just don't know if God sent him home to me or what? I am so very confused and hurt. My kids are glad he is home, they don't understand and I cannot tell them everything. I do not believe him when he says he loves me......I used to feel such comfort and love in his arms, but that is all changed. My heart goes out to you and your children. It is so hard. Why do men have to be dogs? I have found so much help with this Dr Phil board. It is good to know that I am not alone. I will pray for you and your family. You are a good person filled with love and kindness, that is why you are willing to work things out. I am hoping that we can too. Take care. I am your friend. You need to kick his butt out. You are seeing what your future will be like. DONT HAVE SEX WITH THIS MAN. If he had an affair with a stripper he needs to be cked for stds. You deserve better than this. The best thing you can do is work on yourself. A man doesnt walk out on his family for 2mo with no support for them and waltz back in and expect things to be ok. For some reason he thinks he can do you like this. You need to work on being strong so you can get out of this mess. For sure you cant trust him. If you cant afford counseling then get in a church that has some form of counseling. Dr Phil has some good books to help you. Theres good info on these boards. You dont need to get over this until your husband gets his act together. Your love isnt enough for him. This is not about you this is about him. He is the one with the problem but you must work on yourself to be able to deal with this. Go to the library and see if they have some of Dr Phils books. He has no respect for you,his children, Your marriage or himself and if you let him come in like nothing has happened you can be assured he will do it again. You will be a door mat until he completely saps everything you have. Your children will and are suffering. Did he see them while he was living with his stripper? Doesnt care for them either. You also need to get a consultation with a lawyer so he will guide you. Most will do a free consultation. If you dont have money try legal aid. Please for yourself and these children dont put up with this. When you start improving yourself he will start to worry if he is into this marriage, but you need to work on yourself for yourself. Start walking, if you are overweight then lose wt. Get a new hairdo. Make yourself feel better. Keep me posted. I will pray for you. You can handle all this better if you feel better about yourself. Rose Mary |
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