Quote From: luvmytally Hi, I just wanted to stress something. While in the process of chosing to place my daughter for adoption I went through extensive couseling by a wonderful and intelligent lady with a wonderful adoption agency. They taught me one thing that will always stick! They taught to replace the words "give baby up" and "put child up for" and other harsh phrases with the phrase..."place child for" and "placed my baby". I think that this is important because we aren't giving our babies to the first person in line, we aren't "putting" a child up for sale and things like that....we placed the babies into families that will love them. We did a GREAT thing! We should not use words that make it look like we did some sort of aweful thing because that isn't the case. I wished more people would use this wording. I know that Dr. Phil does says "place" instead of "given up". I am not quite sure where he learned that from but I was very impressed to see that he used the word "place" instead of "given up".
Dear birth mothers, I was adopted at age 3 month into a loving family. Every year we celebrated my adoption day, which not only is very special when you are a child celebrating birthday, adoptionday and christmas ;-) but also ensured that I was always aware that I was adopted and most importantly that I was very special.
Like all little childen one day, I asked my mother "where do I come from? and she told me that a kind women had asked my parents if they would love and take care of her baby because she was unable herself and how happpily they say yes.
While I have no wish or need to make contact with my birth mother, I think of her as a brave and unselfish woman who had my best interest at heart.
I could so easily not have come into this world or have grown up in foster homes, had she not made the decision to put me up for adoption. For that I thank her.
Birth mother, though you may grive you also give the greatest gift.
Sincerely, Lis
