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July 25, 2005, 9:01 pm PDT

ctackett01, you need to tell your sister, and not talk to your bil

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I need anyone's advice on what to do about my brother in law. It is nothing new to my parents that my brother in law likes me, and i thought that they were just saying that. but a couple of weeks ago my sister broke her arm and she couldn't clean. When he would come home from work they would fight because the house would be a mess. ( mind you she has 3 boys that are 7 years old and a 3 year old and none of them listen) Well I got tired of listening to her crying about him, so i started going over there and cleaning making him think that it was her. When he found out that it was me he thanked me and was a little touchy towards me. I didn't think anything of it, until the next day when he called me and told me that he liked me and that he has been having dreams about me. I told him that he was married to my sister and that I loved my sister very much, and that I was very happly married and that nothing would happen. Now that he has done that I feel uncomfertable around him, and the clothes I used to wear I cant anymore because he has a coment about them. Another problem that I have is that my son loves him so much and my husband ( his step father) thinks that my brother in law is just trying to make himself look better than my husband. I don't know what to tell him and if I need to tell my brother in law to back off. Please help

ctackett01, you need to tell your sister, and not talk to your brother-in-law (bil). You may even want to ask yourself why you have not already done so. It sounds like he is a real jerk, and the last thing you need is problems with your sister. Families are forever, husbands/wives come and go in this day and age.

You need to have a talk in person with your sister, and let her know what was said. If he is hitting on you, he is probably doing as much at work, or wherever. In this day and age of STD's and HIV, you nor your sister can take something like that back. I hope this helps, and good luck
 
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July 28, 2005, 4:36 am PDT

ctackett01

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I need anyone's advice on what to do about my brother in law. It is nothing new to my parents that my brother in law likes me, and i thought that they were just saying that. but a couple of weeks ago my sister broke her arm and she couldn't clean. When he would come home from work they would fight because the house would be a mess. ( mind you she has 3 boys that are 7 years old and a 3 year old and none of them listen) Well I got tired of listening to her crying about him, so i started going over there and cleaning making him think that it was her. When he found out that it was me he thanked me and was a little touchy towards me. I didn't think anything of it, until the next day when he called me and told me that he liked me and that he has been having dreams about me. I told him that he was married to my sister and that I loved my sister very much, and that I was very happly married and that nothing would happen. Now that he has done that I feel uncomfertable around him, and the clothes I used to wear I cant anymore because he has a coment about them. Another problem that I have is that my son loves him so much and my husband ( his step father) thinks that my brother in law is just trying to make himself look better than my husband. I don't know what to tell him and if I need to tell my brother in law to back off. Please help

 

Assholes like your BIL make life tough on innocent parties.

 

I CANNOT imagine that your parents find it normal that your BIL "likes" you.  How perverse.

 

You need to stay away from BIL and DO NOT go to his house to clean.  Let your Mom do it.  If you still want to help in some way keep the kids AT YOUR HOUSE a few hours a day.  Pick them up after BIL leaves for work and return them before he gets home.

 

BIL thinks you have manufactured this "cleaning" cos you have the hots for him.  Be VERY SURE you are not sending any mixed messages.  Many will disagree, but do not dress provocatively around him.  He personalizes ALL of your actions.  Not worth it.

 

Is anyone else within hearing when he comments on your clothing?  Broken arm is not your sister's real problem.

 

 

The only thing you should say to this ass is that you are not interested in his "dreams" and your husband and his wife will be fully informed if he does not back off.  Do not try to explain things to him.  He isn't listening.  You will have to be straight up with this guy.  No being nice.

 

Son can be told BIL is sick, or having to help auntie with her broken arm, or working extra or whatever. 

 
 
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