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Quote From: confert

My husband and I are still newlyweds and running into trouble already. I feel that my husband is not emotional or affectionate whatsoever. I have communication propblems that I am trying to improve. But it seems like every time I make the effort to express my troubles or feelings about something, he automatically gets defensive and has to prove his side instead of being compassionate and taking into consideration my feelings. I have told him numerous times what my needs are to feel loved. It seems like the only time I get touched or kissed is when he wants to have sex. Oh, and did I mention that we ONLY have sex when he wants to. I now feel like I need to have my actions speak louder than my words. I try not to be as cute or loving as I want to be. I don't tell him I love him as much as I want to, or even say it at all just to see if he'll make the first move. I know it's probably not the right thing to do, but I feel like I've tried to do everything I can to improve our relationship and it's not working. Just last night we had an argument and I tried to express how I was unhappy with how things are going and my husband replied with,"Maybe we shouldn't be in this realationship if I can't make you happy." But I feel that he can make me happy if he just put in some effort. I think he feels that he doesn't have to change. I don't want to end our marriage when it has just started. I know there's other relationships out there that are going through the same thing. Can anyone give me advise that has worked for them? Thanks everyone!

Quote From: confert

My husband and I are still newlyweds and running into trouble already. I feel that my husband is not emotional or affectionate whatsoever. I have communication propblems that I am trying to improve. But it seems like every time I make the effort to express my troubles or feelings about something, he automatically gets defensive and has to prove his side instead of being compassionate and taking into consideration my feelings. I have told him numerous times what my needs are to feel loved. It seems like the only time I get touched or kissed is when he wants to have sex. Oh, and did I mention that we ONLY have sex when he wants to. I now feel like I need to have my actions speak louder than my words. I try not to be as cute or loving as I want to be. I don't tell him I love him as much as I want to, or even say it at all just to see if he'll make the first move. I know it's probably not the right thing to do, but I feel like I've tried to do everything I can to improve our relationship and it's not working. Just last night we had an argument and I tried to express how I was unhappy with how things are going and my husband replied with,"Maybe we shouldn't be in this realationship if I can't make you happy." But I feel that he can make me happy if he just put in some effort. I think he feels that he doesn't have to change. I don't want to end our marriage when it has just started. I know there's other relationships out there that are going through the same thing. Can anyone give me advise that has worked for them? Thanks everyone!