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June 21, 2006, 4:54 pm PDT
Reading between the lines
Quote From: my__angelsDon't be so quick to judge these poor people! Good for you that you don't have this problem - but there are many many people who are in this same situation who need help (me included) - Dr. Phil wouldn't humor this subject on his show if he didn't feel this this was a real problem caused by real reasons....Not once did Dr. Phil say " child services will take your kids away if you keep living like this" !!! I personally am not going to spend my days and nights keeping my house clean just so that people like you can't judge me like you did to the people on TV - I do not want my kids to remember their childhoods as "mom always cleaning" - I want them to remember all the fun we have playing - remember all the time mom spent with them - NOT that our house was always clean -and mom was always cleaning.
My_angels, I agree that Afraid was showing a judgmental side. I don't think Misty's house was bad enough to be a harm to the kids -- an annoyance, yes, but not a threat.
However, down toward the end of your post I got a hint that maybe you're rationalizing just a little bit. You say your mother was always cleaning. You're trying to prove that you're not "that" kind of a mother, so you clean much less than you could. This topic is not about cleaning. It's about having the ability to have a normal amount of control over your things, and not let the things control you. If you feel defensive about the condition of your house, it could be that some people (maybe your mom, maybe just friends who care and aren't trying to run your life) are dropping hints. If this is the case, it's probably like Dr. Phil's audience. We look at the mess and say "Whoa! This is out of control!" while you see it every day and say "What's the problem? I don't see a mess!"
Please think about it. You don't have to be a cleaning maniac OR a potential health hazard. Just a nice, happy medium -- and that really seems difficult for so many people to get.
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