Replies to 'Depression'

You are DEFINITELY NOT worthless.  Or a loser.  

You have the MOST IMPORTANT job in the entire world.  It is also the most maligned.  I, too, am a stay at home mum and wouldn't have it any other way.  I am proud of it.  My children have me 24/7.  It gets tiring, but it's what they need.  A "switched on" mother.  My kids are better spoken than their cousins, who spent most of their weeks in child care.  Mine also are able to visit with their grandparents any time.  

The one who should leave sounds like your husband.  He has very little understanding or empathy for the position you have taken in deciding to stay home for your family.  He is disrespecting you by saying the things he does.  DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT ANYMORE.  You are worth more than that.  

I hope I haven't overstepped the boundaries by saying those things.  I just want to give you something to think about from a different perspective.  

YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS !!!!!  Remember that. Please.  

Ruthieg  

No you are NOT a loser. I don't know what it is with men, they want their wives to stay at home then they don't give them the credit they deserve. If he had to do it, he would have a different outlook but probably only while he was doing it, he would soon forget. For one they don't see things we do that need to be done, they think they pick up their stuff and they are helping out but what about all the other stuff, do they think things don't get dirty on their own (dust, the kitchen floor, the fridge) Andre and I just had a discussion about housework, if I just pick up my stuff then it would be easy to clean. Let see I get the groceries put them away, cook supper all this after work and then I am supposed to pick my stuff up and clean house, while he MOWS the LAWN and fixes things outside, sigh, LOL they will never understand. Second I think some men get a thrill out of making their wives feel bad, a friend of mine is going through the same thing you are, they don't have kids but she makes all his meals even lunch to take to work and her house is spotless, she renovates the house, paints you name it, I don't think he knows how to use a screwdriver. But he tells her pretty much the same thing. 

Laurie  

First it's nice to meet you. It is to my understanding that stay at home mom's have the most important jobs. They work the equivalent of 2 or 3 jobs, so I don' t think that a stay at home mom could fall into the category of being worthless. They/you are working to raise our next generation and I commend anyone that takes on that feat and takes it seriously. " I think after a child turns 18 every mom should earn a degree in something.  

I don't understand why your husband would think that you should do such a thing if you take such good care of him. That is down right cruel but you are doing the right thing by not letting any man beat you down. Sometimes they don't know a good thing when they have. It seems the job of peacemaker also falls on the mothers and that is not wrong either. 

I hope you feel better 

MIMI