Quote From: swiggles36Hey everyone,
I don't want to go into details about my situation, so I will just summerize it as best I can.
I had this guy friend who turned on the charm instantly, claiming he wanted to take me out and so on, and said he was serious about it. I liked him so it wasn't a porblem. But very shortly after, he started to critisize me over a lot of things. I tried to work it out but I slipped-up more in his eyes, then I did good. H blammed me if he "felt insulted" mocked my feelings etc... He even got into some "drama" with some friends of mine and somehow managed to blame me for his involvment in it, or at least it seemed.!!
I must admit that even through the "good" times, something told me something wasn't right about him. I moment i saw him in fact fear came over me and I sensed, and still do whenever I see pics of him, that he as potential violant streak in him. He was verbally abusive. I question that sense though, for whatever reason. I think i lack trust in it, especially when he seems all sweet on the outside and to other people.
Anyhow, he one day outta the blue said we couldnt be friends anymore ( i didnt inquire as to why, since the last time i did, i got drilled for my imperfections of not wanting to confide in him).
Right now im trying to deal with the fact the he now apparently has a gf whom he as known for yrs and treats like a queen , and even goes around ( at least seemingly) giving advice and be-friending other girls, who have the same emotional issues he accused me of having that he found to be "annoying."
It hurts the he jumped up my ass for litle things and now is being nice to others and giving them advice... when he never really seemed interested in knowing me, but how i looked. What did I do? :(
Have I truely lost someone? How can I get in my head that I havent?
It seems to me you haven't lost someone worth having. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and kindness not someone who is going to put you down all the time. He may appear to be treating other better than he treated you but I'm sure he's doing the same thing to them as he did to you. If flags went up in the beginning trust yourself enough to know you got out of a bad situation. Remember, if they treat you bad now they'll always treat you bad. Wait for someone who will treat you like a queen don't settle for anything less.