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June 22, 2006, 8:10 pm PDT

Depression

Quote From: swiggles36

Hey everyone, 

  

I don't want to go into details about my situation, so I will just summerize it as best I can. 

  

I had this guy friend who turned on the charm instantly, claiming he wanted to take me out and so on, and said he was serious about it.  I liked him so it wasn't a porblem. But very shortly after, he started to critisize me over a lot of things. I tried to work it out but I slipped-up more in his eyes, then I did good. H blammed me if he "felt insulted" mocked my feelings etc... He even got into some "drama" with some friends of mine and somehow managed to blame me for his involvment in it, or at least it seemed.!! 

  

I must admit that even through the "good" times, something told me something wasn't right about him. I moment i saw him in fact fear came over me and I sensed, and still do whenever I see pics of him, that he as potential violant streak in him. He was verbally abusive. I question that sense though, for whatever reason. I think i lack trust in it, especially when he seems all sweet on the outside and to other people. 

  

Anyhow, he one day outta the blue said we couldnt be friends anymore ( i didnt inquire as to why, since the last time i did, i got drilled for my imperfections of not wanting to confide in him). 

  

Right now im trying to deal with the fact the he now apparently has a gf whom he as known for yrs and treats like a queen , and even goes around ( at least seemingly) giving advice and be-friending other girls,  who have the same emotional issues he accused me of having that he found to be "annoying." 

  

It hurts the he jumped up my ass for litle things and now is being nice to others and giving them advice... when he never really seemed interested in knowing me, but how i looked. What did I do? :( 

  

Have I truely lost someone? How can I get in my head that I havent? 

It seems to me you haven't lost someone worth having.  You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and kindness not someone who is going to put you down all the time.  He may appear to be treating other better than he treated you but I'm sure he's doing the same thing to them as he did to you.  If flags went up in the beginning trust yourself enough to know you got out of a bad situation.  Remember, if they treat you bad now they'll always treat you bad.  Wait for someone who will treat you like a queen don't settle for anything less.
 
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June 22, 2006, 8:12 pm PDT

From what I have read etc.

Quote From: swiggles36

Hey everyone, 

  

I don't want to go into details about my situation, so I will just summerize it as best I can. 

  

I had this guy friend who turned on the charm instantly, claiming he wanted to take me out and so on, and said he was serious about it.  I liked him so it wasn't a porblem. But very shortly after, he started to critisize me over a lot of things. I tried to work it out but I slipped-up more in his eyes, then I did good. H blammed me if he "felt insulted" mocked my feelings etc... He even got into some "drama" with some friends of mine and somehow managed to blame me for his involvment in it, or at least it seemed.!! 

  

I must admit that even through the "good" times, something told me something wasn't right about him. I moment i saw him in fact fear came over me and I sensed, and still do whenever I see pics of him, that he as potential violant streak in him. He was verbally abusive. I question that sense though, for whatever reason. I think i lack trust in it, especially when he seems all sweet on the outside and to other people. 

  

Anyhow, he one day outta the blue said we couldnt be friends anymore ( i didnt inquire as to why, since the last time i did, i got drilled for my imperfections of not wanting to confide in him). 

  

Right now im trying to deal with the fact the he now apparently has a gf whom he as known for yrs and treats like a queen , and even goes around ( at least seemingly) giving advice and be-friending other girls,  who have the same emotional issues he accused me of having that he found to be "annoying." 

  

It hurts the he jumped up my ass for litle things and now is being nice to others and giving them advice... when he never really seemed interested in knowing me, but how i looked. What did I do? :( 

  

Have I truely lost someone? How can I get in my head that I havent? 

Someone who quickly wants to be that friendly is because they want you to quickly feel intimate to them for the short term yet often not for the long term. The problem is most women if they are intimate are expecting something for the long term. Sounds like you lost someone that was critical of you and in time will regain your self respect. That hurts yet all Mr. Wrong does is block your view from seeing Mr. Right. Have you read LOVE SMART by Dr. Phil. Should be at your library and is an excellent book "or" you can click STORE above. Nice to meet you and good luck.

LOVE SMART: drphil.com/articles/article/504
 


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