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September 13, 2007, 1:41 pm PDT
Breaking Up
Quote From: hun911I have had an off and on relationship with a guy for about three years. We had broken up in the beginning of the year after he went through a personal trajedy and withdrew from me. in June he came back begging asking for another chance and he made a mistake. Since then we have been trying to make it work, but my mistrust of him that he may leave again is taking a toll and may ruin us for good. I am having a hard time getting over him hurting me but I don't want to lose him again. I can feel myself pushing him away and recently he has told me that it is getting to him and he feels I will never get over what has happened. I have put a lot of doubt in his mind. I don't want to lose him again and I know that he doesn't want to lose me, but there is a big wall between the two of us that is very difficult to breakdown.
Even if two people love each other very much, is that enough????????
Please give me some advice, I don't know what to do next!!!! I recently had a similar situation. My boyfriend broke up with me, but continued to call, email, and text message me. I couldn't understand, why if he broke up with me he would keep reaching out to me. We went to counseling - just one session - and decided to get back together. It has been a roller coaster of emotions. I love him completely and I know he loves me, but I was so scared of getting hurt that I did not invest 100% of myself to him. It's been 2 months since we got back together and I'm slowly coming around. I just try to concentrate on the here and now and not overthink too much. If everything else is good and he makes you feel loved and appreciated and if he realizes he made a mistake the first time, then let it go. All relationships run the risk of failing and you always are putting yourself out there to get hurt, but without risk, there's no reward!
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