Quote From: confertI understand what you mean. I just started reading Dr. Phil's book "Relationship Rescue", and he starts it with how you have to reconnect with yourself first before you can fix the relationship. I am happy with myself. I'm a very confident individual and know I have a lot going for myself at such a young age. My husband and I have a good relationship for the most part. We are able to just sit and talk like friends and joke around. It's just that affection issue. With all that said, if I'm happy with myself, does that mean that I'm just not happy with him? I know he can't MAKE me happy, but there are little things that would make me feel better about our relationship. Does that make sense, or am I just naive?
Then communicate and then communicate so more about what you need and want out of your relationship.
Since you are a newlywed I will say that a decrease in the kind of affection you have grown accustomed to is normal, BUT that doesn't mean you can't ask for what you need.
You still may not get what you want, but at least you asked for it.
Perhaps you could ask him for a hug or a for some ideas about how the TWO of you can meet in the middle regarding your desire for more affection. Since men are generally more analytical thinkers, maybe that's a good direction.
It sounds like the two of you have a good relationship and a good relationship is WORTH fighting for.
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