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July 13, 2006, 5:09 pm PDT
red flags
Quote From: content2bSome people are very good at justifying their behaviors. They are masters of manipulation. A woman can see the red flags, but depending on her definition of what "love should look like", she can see her partner's unstable behavior and anger tendancies toward outsiders and make the false assumption that if her partner really loves her, he will never act that way towards her. Until one day, he realizes that she is the easiest target and the only one who will allow him to get away with those behaviors. Usually, he is manipulative enough to cause her to believe that somehow she caused his reaction. This will go on until she gets the courage to stand up for herself. My soon to be ex husband was the sweetest, supportive, giving compassionate, understanding, loving during courtship I th-aught I was the luckiest woman on earth. 4 years later it was like a switch went off. First the verbal abuse then the physical abuse, then the total control over money he took me off all the bank accounts because I did not work. He did not want me to work. Now during a nasty divorce he is out to destroy me. Even through I have no money, almost homeless and fighting my inner soul to save what is left of my mind I still cant believe he could change overnight. So you never know what is going to happen. He is so manipulative that he still tries to make me and the court system believe that it was all my fault for his behaviors. He was and is still good at pulling the wool over on anyone and any situation.
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