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I came across your post while looking for someone with the same problem as me, but kind of the opposite. I also reconnected with my first love after many years. He lived in another country and I moved there to be with him. Well, we ended up getting pregnant and married. We have been back together for almost 3 years and have a one year old. The problem is that I can't stop thinking about the guy that I was dating on and off for a few years while me husband and I weren't together. I loved this guy so much but he wasn't ready to commit to me so I moved on (physically but not emotionally). I feel like this guy is the guy that I am meant to be with, even though I don't believe in that soul mate stuff. I dream about him all the time and I think about him every day. I feel like I married the wrong man. The hardest part to swallow is that this guy now expresses interest in me. He is a good friend of my family because he has been friends with my brother for 15 years. He has recently asked my brother about me and how my marriage is. He he also talked to my mom about me. I know that he is regretting letting me go and I think he feels the same way about me as I do him. But I am married now and have a daughter so I have to try and ignore my feelings and it's incredibly hard. I think that it is normal to still have some love for an X and maybe you are just having premarital jitters because you don't know if you are making the right decision. That is perfectly normal. If you feel like you love your fiance with all your heart and want to spend the rest of your life with him then that is a very positive thing. I feel that way about my X, not my husband. So it sounds like you are just scared about making such a big decision and I don't think you'll end up in the situation that I find myself in.

I am in a situation that I can't do anything about being able to be with my true love while married to another.  Before you get married try with all your might to see if it's still there.  Trust me if you still think about  your true love you always will.  You have a chance and to be fair to your fiance you should do it.  Your True love may not be who you think they really are.  Alot of times seperation allows us to forget the things we don't like about someone and build up the good things.  I think it may ease your mind.  If you don't find your true love maybe there is a reason.  From this ste it seems it is normal to be in love with your ture love yet love another.  I think there are many people in this world we can love and be happy with.  I also feel like there is true love and it shouldn't be passed up.  WE should be as happy aws possible.  Your fiance deserves to be totally loved and if it means you finding your true love and seeing if it is still there isn't it worth it?  You are taking a vow to love and cherish your spouse for ever until death do you part.  If you truely believe that's what you want you owe it to everyone to check it out.  I hope this helps.  Good Luck.