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I can only tell you how I would respond. I wouldn't marry him because I would know that I would never be able to get past this and I would spend my life punishing him for it. So marrying him wouldn't be fair to me or him. I just can't believe you told him no strippers and he did it anyway. And this crap about "how could I refuse?" is just that . . . crap. There is a little tiny word that would have done the trick. NO! So what's to keep him now from frequenting strip clubs in the future or even cheating. He now knows that he can get away with it. He can even get away with breaking promises to you. Doesn't sound like much of a foundation for marriage. I would say that possibly the only thing that would be a big enough gesture for me under the circumstances would be for him to immediately cut off all contact with all of these guys who accompanied on his adulterous adventure. If that means uninviting them to the wedding, so be it. He would have to do something really big right now for me to be able to believe that he's willing to change and getting rid of his trashy friends would be a start.

You said "that is just how bachelor parties are...." but I want to tell you that is a load of crap that men tell their girlfriends/fiance/wives so that they can be naughty and get away with it!! Bachelor parties can be fun without being perverted. If someone else buys a lap dance, he's got to be man enough to say, 'thanks, but none for me!' and mean it. That is what a respectful and respectable man would do, if his fiance requested it, when faced with a lap dance. 

When my husband's friends planned his bachelor party, there were strippers involved, but to be honest it didn't bother me. It didn't bother me because I had a gut feeling, an instinct, that he would be respectful of my feelings. He had a great time without getting nasty. Men are visual, I had no problem with him viewing the strippers. He came home to me! 

Anyway I just wanted to get the point across that if a guy says he was forced to have a lap dance he's full of crap. But also, whats so wrong with a lap dance, anyway? These women are working a job, they are just trying their hardest to make as much money as they can. Its all an act, they don't really 'like' the guys.  

Just my opinion.