Quote From: kraziegirlLately things have not been good with my mom and step dad. The situation is hard on both me and my mom. You see, my step dad lives in California, and my mom and I live here in Canada, but that's the least of my mom's worries right now. My step dad told my mom back in January I believe, that he needed a 3 month period where they didn't communicate at all, for one thing, why would he need a 3 month period? I mean, he says he loves my mom and I but you know, we're both doubtful, so if he truly loves us then why does he need that 3 months? Anyway, so my mom said, "fine" and they had a break for a while, but then grandpa (my mom's dad)died and well basically there was no sympathy from him towards us. See, what is REALLY making my mom so sad is that if my step dad doesn't want to be with her or doesn't love her anymore, why can't he just tell her that instead of treating her like this. I mean, one minute he's all "I love you" then the next he's all "leave me alone" and I don't get it either. My mom hasn't done ANYTHING to him at all, in fact she's been trying to help him and this is how he treats her. My mom has described this pain as if some one were pulling the limbs off of some animal starting with one, then doing another one. I have seen my mom cry for weeks and it makes me sad as well because I'm only 21 and I feel there's nothing I can do to help her, so I would like to know, what can be done and to be honest, I do think this is abuse, the way he's treating her....it's not fair.
Kraziegirl, it sounds like your stepfather may have lost interest in your mother. Sometimes when people are in a relationship, they do need time apart, if things get heated up, but this doesn't sound like the situation your mother/step-father are having.
I am sure you and your mother are in a lot of turmoil while this is going on, and that is a sad thing.
Maybe your mother needs to begin to think about moving on with her life, and I am sure there is someone out there somewhere that would be willing to not only love your mother, but would be able to treat her with the respect she deserves.
All you can do at this point is support your mother, and let her know you love her and are there for her.
This is something that she needs to do on her own, and she needs to try and not bring you in the middle of this.
You don't say how old you are, but other than giving your mother moral support and love, this is something you don't need to be worrying about, at least the best you can.
It sounds like your step-father is not being an adult, and doesn't have the maturity to tell your mother that he is wanting out of the relationship. He may already have another one started. If when your grandfather passed away, he was not sympathetic, that is a good sign he no longer is in love with your mother. I hope this helps, and I will have a good thought for you, and your mother
