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 First let me say that I do not believe in beating children but I do believe that is a majority rule to let them know who is boss. I have six children and I believe there is more than just time out, everyone says give them time out sometimes it just don't work . You don't give time out in public and if they are little they have forgotten what they have done when you bring them home. Be forcefull with the rules at home and don't let them ever think they have your goat. My children are 9,8,7,6,4,& 1. I have been told by plenty of people they are well behaved but that does not mean they are perfect and never will be. When I was younger a spanking or a slapping was always the best option. I did not turn out to be an evil person. I don't parent the same way but I do things like get in the corner and hold a penny with your nose and don't let it drop or you have extra time there. They fight they write, a hundred sentences, Can't do what your told then suffer the consequence of work wether it be doing the dishes or helping with laundry or even mopping  a floor with soap and water. I have a check system and it works well. I just don't believe in giving the same punishment over and over again eventually the will keep testing the boundaries of those punishments till either you give up or stick a new rule with it. You know children have rage and giving them a pillow to hit is good but sometimes I wonder if that just teaches them that hitting is okay as long as they are mad.  I believe if you get mad do something constuctive walk ,run, something that takes their mind off of what they are mad about.  I make my kids walk the ten which is walking ten times from the kitchen to the front room and if the attitude is not gone by the time they are done, they do ten more. The whole time they are walking I tell them that getting angry is okay but controlling it is better than violence and then I try to make them laugh by doing something goofy. It may not be an experts idea but my kids don't lash out as much as I have seen others. Oh and quit trying to be their friends your out for their future not wether they are going to like you or not they may not like you all the time but they will respect you for making boundaries as they grow.