Quote From: vlwc57I'm never an advocate of divorce, but is surely seems that this fellow needs to learn to count - and appreciate - his blessings! It sounds as if he 'has you where he wants you' thinking and feeling that you're worthless, but that you're obligated to fulfill HIS needs and desires! This is never good.
I think if you'd bolster your courage enough to even start divorce proceedings (and not back down as soon as he starts whining and apologizing, which a man almost always does if a woman calls his bluff and he stands to be embarrassed among his peers by being publicly shunned and rejected by his long-time wife), he might fully realize what he stands to lose and change his attitude! If not, with a half decent lawyer, the court should order him to give you the house plus alimony.
I'd at least speak privately with a reputable cousellor or a lawyer. You've been oppressed long enough!
vlwc57,
I have been this route 5 years ago. He was not only "verbally" abusive and controlling, but he hit me and i had HAD IT. I went to court explained my situation about it all.....the Judge put him out for 6 months...he stayed 7....and I was STUPID and scared and begged him back, yes, i guess i BACKED DOWN as you say............I have been married since I was 18 and am 50 now. I know nothing but "depending" on him.!!!!!! He KNOWS it. Everyone told me half of this and half of that.....I dont' know because we "Owed" on everything. He would sell the home and HIDE half of the funds from it, just like he did the joint business that we owned together. He will have lots of money and say...I need to put it in a "fund" for "our retirement"....ha. I get the picture. If something DID happen....guess what.....I am screwed. Really! He would take it out Likety Split and put it in someone elses name.....Like he didn't own it until everything was settled. I would be on food stamps and all. Not that I wouldn't feel like sometimes I really would bet lots better off. I have no family that I could go to.....so I would totally be out there.....alone. I know this sound pitiful and so co-dependant. Sorry, but I dont have no idea at this stage in my life HOW in the world I would even get a loan in my name, to buy a car, a home, etc. Right now he is doing a little better....he has had his fit two weeks ago, etc etc. Now he is all lovey dovey.....I am not lovey dovey....I feel nothing for him, right now!
