Quote From: xavierannYour problem is that he can not decide where his loyalties are - if money was not part of the equasion you would still have such a problem. He does not love you or he would want to take care of you. He continues to spend money on his ex-wife because he hopes to re-ignight their relationship, and you are good enough to hang around with while he waits for her. IN this case you should walk out the door. You would be minus an expense is all, no love lost because he does not love you anyway. He needs to begin to take care of you in the nicest way he can and he is not, so you need to throw in the towel. I suggest you get a "temporary" separation, and tell him that you need him to stop it with the ex-wife, and start taking care of you fully - give him a 6 month test period and he has to pay for counciling. at the end of 6 months? dump him anyway, as he probl. won't really change.
I agree with you and that is why I am in the process of getting my house ready to put on the market and have decided to move to Florida. I am feeling somewhat guilty about letting him stay here until I move but basically my self esteem is so bad and so low that I am using him like he has used me until I move.
He actually thinks I am still in love with him, but honestly I am so emotionally unattached that I can't wait to move and be away. He also thinks that he can come to Florida whenever he wants to see me and spend time with me, I let him think that but again it will never happen he will know once I move that is over and final no going back.
Now if I can get over being depressed that will be a help, I try to be positive and look at the good things but sometimes it is so hard because I don't feel it. Maybe I am just being silly but its hard to feel anything right now.
