Quote From: wisingI have never tried on-line dating because I am too afraid for my personal safety. I have not dated in 9 years and I find that I always attract people that I am not attracted to. Then I get complaints that my standards are too high....well, I'm sorry, but I cannot picture myself kissing or spend my life with someone who does not know how to shower or brush their teeth or comb their hair. It is even more difficult to find someone you can connect with.
One of the most helpful steps I took after being divorced was to write down what I perceived to be my relationship needs and how I would efine my perfect relationship. At a separate time I reviewed my list to objectively ask if collectively my needs were realistic. I found some "I want my cake and eat it too" type needs, i.e. they conflicted. So I revised the list and this gives me better focus about what is important to me and allows me to evaluate potential dates. Perhaps your standards are too high with meaniless requirements or perhaps they are jsut right for you. If they are not getting the result that you want, you would have to be surious whether or not they are too stringent or if you want an excuse for being alone and perhaps lonely. Only you can decide this, but counselors are great sounding boards.
Tom
