Replies to 'Teens and Sex'
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July 13, 2006, 2:36 pm PDT
 Quote From: hockey94 Im really hoping I can help you out at least a little with your situation. Im kind of comming from your daughters standpoint. When I was 17, I had a friend for a while that I knew from back home, he was 25 years old at the time. We never dated because of the age difference, but really liked eachother. Anyways When I turned 18, he was 26, and we decided to start dating. I am very very close with my parents and family just as you are with your children. I hid the relationship for a couple of months because I knew they wouldnt approve. After a while I finally told my parents, and let me tell you they did not like that ! They had known him from previous but when they found out we were dating it was the hardest time of my life. My brother was the worst! Im extremely close with my brother, and felt as though I was letting him down. I had to write him a 5 page letter just to try get him to understand where i was comming from. Anyways Im 20 now and he is 28, We are still so in love. We have lived together for just over a year, and things are awsome. My point of telling you all this is you know your daughter better then anyone in this world. Im sure she is very smart, and you know that she wouldnt let her self get caught in a bad situation. If she felt she was getting influenced in a bad way, she would step back. Sometimes you just cant help who you love. Im sure there not at the love stage yet but you shouldnt let 6 years get in the way of your daughter finding that. Im sure she will make the right choice. And as for the sex thing, if your daughter is still a virgin, then she will know when the right time is. I never slept with my boyfriend till about the 1 year mark. If you trust your daughter, you should trust her on this that she will make the right decision. If she feels herself gettin to deep, she will pull away. My parents love my boyfriend now, they come over for dinner all the time, and we do all sorts of things together. They are NOW finally very happy that he is in my life. I really hope this helped you a bit. If you wanna chat some more just write me back. Good Luck Although I see your point. Your boyfriend may be the exception to the norm. There is usually a reason older guys "dip into the kiddie pool". Alot of them are looking for easy sex.Someone younger that they can control. I was 15 and dating a 21 year old guy. At the time I thought if was great.Looking back at it now i see that he had the best of both worlds.I would do whatever he wanted whenever he want it,because he made sure i was aware that it be easier to date a girl his own age,that i could be replaced.But he didn't have to do anything for me. We couldn't be seen together because of my age.So of course I had to hid our relationship from everyone and sneak around and lie, but he said it was worth it because we were really in love!HA that love didn't last long after I told him I was pregnant. All of a sudden he didn't know me, he had never touch and eventually he just dissappered.I think she should keep her daughter away from him at least until she is 18. |
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July 14, 2006, 8:30 pm PDT
Quote From: hockey94 Im really hoping I can help you out at least a little with your situation. Im kind of comming from your daughters standpoint. When I was 17, I had a friend for a while that I knew from back home, he was 25 years old at the time. We never dated because of the age difference, but really liked eachother. Anyways When I turned 18, he was 26, and we decided to start dating. I am very very close with my parents and family just as you are with your children. I hid the relationship for a couple of months because I knew they wouldnt approve. After a while I finally told my parents, and let me tell you they did not like that ! They had known him from previous but when they found out we were dating it was the hardest time of my life. My brother was the worst! Im extremely close with my brother, and felt as though I was letting him down. I had to write him a 5 page letter just to try get him to understand where i was comming from. Anyways Im 20 now and he is 28, We are still so in love. We have lived together for just over a year, and things are awsome. My point of telling you all this is you know your daughter better then anyone in this world. Im sure she is very smart, and you know that she wouldnt let her self get caught in a bad situation. If she felt she was getting influenced in a bad way, she would step back. Sometimes you just cant help who you love. Im sure there not at the love stage yet but you shouldnt let 6 years get in the way of your daughter finding that. Im sure she will make the right choice. And as for the sex thing, if your daughter is still a virgin, then she will know when the right time is. I never slept with my boyfriend till about the 1 year mark. If you trust your daughter, you should trust her on this that she will make the right decision. If she feels herself gettin to deep, she will pull away. My parents love my boyfriend now, they come over for dinner all the time, and we do all sorts of things together. They are NOW finally very happy that he is in my life. I really hope this helped you a bit. If you wanna chat some more just write me back. Good Luck I am in the same situation as we speak. i started dating my boyfriend chad in january and i was 17 at the time, he was 25 and i lied to my mom about how old he was because i wanted to get to know him and i knew she wouldnt let me if she knew his age. We clicked instantly and hes not the typical 25 year old, hes motivated and goes to college, he doesnt do drugs or drink, hes very religious and was a virgin until 2 days ago. Hes become a member of our family and my mom loves and trusts him, which is why it is so hard to know that we are lying to her. I know her main concern will be that he is using and manipulating me but thats not the case, we lost our virginity to one and other and are very much in love. I see myself being with him for a very long time, but i dont know how to go about telling my mom. Easiest i could just say it, but im just so scared because ive been lying and thats what makes it so much worse. Plus my mom is very hostile and close minded and blows things out of proportion, i just dont know what to do! |
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