Quote From: darcyloveYour story is like so many. And my story started out not so different than yours...but I will have to say...that when we sought help as a couple....things improved greatly. We are now doing very well. It took time and hard work for the both of us. My husband is a porn addict. He no longer makes the excuses like he once did like "everyone does it" and so on.. He doesn't use the excuse "I can't help myself...I am an addict." He just accepts this is what he is and that he has to stay away from the porn. In our past there was much hurt, there were lies and there was deception. I also didn't feel I could leave the house because I never knew what would happen if I did. But I don't look over my shoulder any more (or for the most part I don't...it is hard to let go). There is help out there and if you both want it....I think anyone can over come porn in a marriage. Good luck and stick around.
I can't believe how your story sounds so much like mine. I just recently found out that this has been on going thing for ("years") Young teens and down-loaded a picture of a girl that we know (she was fully dressed standing in with family members, he cut her out and put her on his fantansy file. He told me he knew that it was wrong but he still did it anyway. He said that he's files have been put away and hasn't been looked out for two years. " It's bad enough that they have teenages/porn but when you see someone that you know and put her in that catagory just Killed me.
I have been searching the net about porn / therapist and they had a story basically like ours that some men came from having a "Depressed Mother" growing up and the therapist feels thats way they turn to porn. Maybe, if men won't upset ther wifes that also are the mothers of their children this won't happen so much.
What hurts the most is our relationship has been really good for the past two years. "Like a 2nd Honeymoon". I feel embarrassed, upset, sick to my stomach. He wants to get a job at a school so he can be home when our children are home. I don't know if that's a good Idea? I really don't think anything would come of it. He's really sorry and he told me that this has been He 's "WAKE-UP CALL"!! He's willing to do anything for our relationship to work. How long did it take you to forgive and going on?
(How often did you both go see a therapist? I'm open for any suggestions?
