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July 26, 2005, 4:26 pm PDT
Depression
Quote From: psychwife2Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. They redesigned this board and I am having trouble keeping up with the posts.
Having a baby is such a major change for the both of you. Your husband might be feeling a little overwhelmed himself, therefore he gets a bit frustrated when he feels you aren't happy. And he is probably feeling a little helpless because he doesn't know how to help you. Don't blame yourself for his frustration and don't put too much pressure on yourself to get better for him so he'll be happy again. You need to do it for yourself and the rest will follow. Just keep those lines of communication open and you will do just fine. And just to warn you, sometimes the husbands get a little jealous once the baby comes...they feel like they have gone down a few notches on the totem pole since new moms tend to pay so much attention to the baby (like they have any choice, LOL!) That's why it is so important to take care of yourself now, while you have the time.
You are about to enter a wonderful phase of your life. My hope for you is that you will be able to find a way to work through your depressioin so that you can enjoy you new baby.
Mine are now 20 and 17 and they have been such a joy...and a lot of work, LOL! You'll make it...and until then, please keep in touch. It is a very scary time in your life when you are having a baby and don't diminish that fear it is real you just have to keep things in perspective and pray for the best and take care of yourself the best way you know. I had a very traumatic pregnancy last year and we (baby and I) nearly died. It is hard for partners and family to know what to say and how to cope with things like that. I was in and out of hospital during the pregnacy and each time I was scared stiff I was going to loose the baby and my husband kept say don't worry you will be fine. That drove me crazy as I thought didn't he realise how serious this was but it was his way of coping. He really struggled with seeing me so scared and emotionally up and down that all he could do was say it will be ok. I am glad your husband is being supportive as it is really hard for another person to know how you feel and what to say. Good luck with it all.Chipizubov
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