Replies to '07/13 Online Dating'

Quote From: kodiak57

I am a serious man that hasn't been in the dating world for a number of years and seem to have forgotten what it is all about. Before I was married I was one of what is termed the bad boys, thats what I quess attracted my ex. I did settle down and raised my children, but the wild side of me was only subdued during those years. For a long time in my marriage I thought I was pretty much in control of things, not a tyrant, just making sure things were in some sort of order. After I was filed on I found that it really wasn't control, it was always what she wanted me to do and I guess to keep the peace I let things that were important slide several times. I was told more than ten years before we finally split that she no longer loved me, but my children needed both of us I felt, so I styaed trying to revive something that didn't exist, I'm not one to give up easily. I have always been successful and thought I could fix this, however I found it takes both people trying to make it work, now I am back in control. Its like waking from a coma and finding that a big part of life passed me by while I was sleeping, so now its time to start all over, but how? Women your age are far from the dog years, unless you let them take over your life and quit trying. I have met and dated women in their forties and fifties that have taken care of themselves and they are in no way dogs. Of course men my age seem to be looking for much younger women, arm candy, but some of these younger women are just out there to get whatever the bank account will buy them. I can't say that I am not intrigued by having younger women date me, thats all fine and dandy, but if I am looking for someone that I know I could settle down with, it isn't one of these, unless I could see that it was really me they wanted and I could trust them totally. So don't sell yourself short, there are a lot of men like me that still look for the right gal and when they find them age don't mean a thing.