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July 21, 2006, 10:21 am PDT
 Quote From: wintterose Yes the men on these sites do have imagination's..Most men I have met the first thing they want to know is about your sexual habits..is this because I am a blond or just female on this sites?LOL I think I have responded to an intelligent, attractive,responsible man and the first thing coming out is about sex? Don't you think we should meet first??? I've answered!! I am 57 OK for my age I hope but some of he men use photos from high school or 10 years ago etc or no photo at all. I guess it is the nature of the beast. One thing women want or most women is honesty, caring and confidence in a man. And being confident doesn't mean arrogance. We are all getting older ( in my age bracket) and we don't look like we used to or want to maybe but beauty is skin deep and ugly goes clear to the bone..LOL This topic had been so enlightening and makes me feel not alone in the quest for that person we desire to meet. Thanks Dr.Phil I would just like thank you for being so brave and candid to post your experiences about men who focus on the sex - and target that subject way too soon. It *is* good to know that we are not alone when dealing with these bad eggs. I think many women are embarassed to say that have gotten those sort of responses, and often wonder if somehow, we have encouraged this behavior through some sort of mixed message on our profiles. The more I hear, the less I think that's the case. I do think there are just a lot of fellows who use and abuse this media for their own gratification.
I often change my haircolor, going from red, to brown to almost black, (I can't do the blonde thing) and yes, I've been the unlucky recipient of those types of responses no matter what my color de jour is. I am in no way a prude, and think there's nothing better than wonderful sexual chemistry, but I will shut those puppies down in a heartbeat if they are trying for that sort of chat right from go.
I am not crazy about the formats that are currently in use for many of the online dating sites. When I first started online dating, back in 1999, the majority of the web-dating sites were free like on search engines excite.com and yahoo.com which did not have such a formal format. At one time, there was a fun free site called U-date, I am not sure if it is still around or still free. On all these sites, at this time you basically went on and wrote a few paragraphs, saying what ever you wanted. I think the limited room for individuality and cheezy multiple-choice Q & A's leave a lot to be desired. It is quite possible, with today's structured formats, that even the blandest, lack-luster fellow can get by as most information is either coached, pre-filled data or silly multiple choice questions. There is really no need for creativity or a unique point of view to get by.
I have been registered on match.com and e-harmony, and haven't been thrilled with the results. If anyone has any recommendations for online dating sites that have not been mentioned, please feel free to post. |
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