Replies to 'Pornography'

Quote From: lilacmess

Direct your husband to this website, for one thing. Have him read the archives. Perhaps once he sees that you are not the only women who believes porn is cheating, he will begin to think differently about it. In my opinion, if his friends are encouraging him to visit strip clubs and even Hooters, he needs new friends . . . period. And you have every right as his wife and the mother of his children to put your foot down about friendships that are dangerous to your marriage. Honorable married men do not seek out opportunities to gawk at other women. Honorable married men save their lust for their wives. It might also be helpful to you to do some online research about the very real effects of pornography, especially internet porn. I am completing a second MA and just finished writing an academic paper about internet pornography. There is quite a bit of scientific evidence out there proving that pornography has the same type of effect on the brain as heroin or cocaine. Search under "The Science BehindPornography Addiction" and youshould be directed to a government study discussingthe issue. Keep in mind, alcoholics do not hang out at bars or liquor stores. You husband, if indeed heis addicted to pornography, hasno business eating at Hooters. Most importantly,the two of you need to establish some boundaries concerning porn, strip clubs, etc. Decide for yourself exactly what you can deal with and what you can't and be upfront with him. If he truly loves you and is an honorable man, he should have no problem eliminating all pornography and temptations to view pornography from his life. This may include giving up certain friendships.As I said, he should be willing to do this for you. You are his wife and you are supposed to be his number 1 priority. Good luck.