Quote From: fsunolePlease be unselfish and let your boyfriend go to find someone else. My God, you're only 20 years old. You are not in the "nesting" stage of life, and so it's hard for you to keep your clothes on when some "bad boy" turns on his charms (or you drink excessively, or are feeling bad about yourself, or your boyfriend makes you mad, etc.).
IMHO, you don't "love" your boyfriend you just think you do. But there's no dishonor in that. Very few 20 year olds are emotionally ready enough for a long-term stable, monogamous committment. You've shown that by being wooed to bed by some guy you don't even know.
You and your boyfriend should be hoonest with each other and part ways peacfully. Then in five years or so when you and he may be ready to settle down, consider dating each other again. If you're meant to be together you will. Now is not the right time.
Hey Friendli,
Your story reminded me of myself 30 years ago. I too had a wonderful boyfriend that was really too good to be true. I also met a "bad boy" that all the girls in school were secretly in love with however, he picked me to be his next victim and like an idiot, I fell for it and dumped my perfect boyfriend to run on the wild side.
That was the worst mistake of my life. Needless to say, I found out why the "bad boy" was the "bad boy!" He cheated on me every chance he got and when I broke it off with him, my old beau had moved on. I had hurt him terribly and he wasn't looking back and I didn't blame him.
For the next 30 years, I never, ever forgot about him. What had I done? I have been married and divorced THREE times and am now pushing 50! We are both now single again and have resumed our relationship. Things are wonderful. The only thing I regret is losing all those years.
I know you're only 20 years old and are just starting out. My advice to you is to dump the "bad boy" and rethink your relationship with Mr. Perfect. ( I know, nobody's perfect!) Maybe you can just go slow with him and maybe get to know him again. Find some new things to do together and rebuild your relationship. I may be way off here but I'd hate to see another person make the same dumb mistake I made 30 years ago and have been miserable up until now.
You say you "love him with all your heart." If you do, that should be your answer.
Take care & Good Luck!
Farmerchik
