Quote From: missjane2Earlier this year I accidentally found what I call an Anorexia "note" in my teenage daughter's bedroom. It was her written plan of how she was going to lose weight from 95 pounds to her goal weight of 78 pounds. We went out and had a big talk about this and 2 weeks later she changed her goal weight to 80 pounds which we had another huge talk about this. It was all about a boy. The sister of the boy she liked weighed 78 pounds. My daughter looks good and I told her someday when she is older she is going to wish she could be the size she is right now. But she doesn't even talk to this boy, but admires him from a distance. I told her the reason he doesn't like her is because she doesn't talk to him, not because of her weight. He has had a few girlfriends other than her, but she blames it on her weight. I also told her she needed to work on cleaning her room, because if she wants a boyfriend with a future these are the important things: communication and cleanliness......
If she is activley doing things to lose weight like excesive exercise, vomitting, not eating, taking laxatives etc it is time for medical help while she is still at a healthy weight and before the anoerxia sets in and becomes full blown. SOunds like she has self-seteem issues.
I would find a psychologist who deals with eating disorders. They have great programs out there.
Also she needs to see someone regarding her self-esteem issues so she can begin to look at herself and love herself.
My daughter was losing weight at 14 5'4" her lowest was under 100 pounds close to 90.
But through counseling and working with these people she is better now.
JMO
Tammy
