Quote From: hatingmeThis is my first time posting on this board, but I'm hoping for some help. My boyfriend & I have been together for about 11 years. He would like to have sex every minute of the day if he could. When I don't want to have sex, he will accuse me of cheating on him, threatens to find someone who will satisfy him, and is generally not a nice person. Even after he says these horrible things to me and usually makes me cry, he still expects me to have sex with him. I can have sex with him in the morning and if I don't have sex with him at lunch he starts his tirades. I really don't know what to do, we have a child together and can't stand the thought that he is willing to leave his child because I don't have sex with him when and how he wants it. Any advice?
Your choices are to start to develop thick skin- meaning don't allow his hateful words to bother you, or, you can take your child and move forward in life and have a healthy and happy existance.
Your boyfriend sounds like he is very insecure and immature. What do you do when he is calling you names, do you plead with him that its not true? What you should do is just ignore it. When you tell him its not true over and over, you are giving him his "pay off" as Dr. Phil would call it. He needs to be told constantly that you only want him, its like an addiction. Because of his own low self esteem, he eggs you on until you promise many times that you are not cheating... And then he will start all over again.
Dr. Phil had a couple on his show where the wife did the same thing that your boyfriend does, and his advice was the same thing, stop giving her the payoff. I know its difficult, but there isn't any other way to stop it.
