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September 2, 2005, 4:03 pm PDT
09/02 "I Hate Myself"
Quote From: wendileigh Is it just me or was Dr Phil a little soft on the first mother? I would never tell any of my girls not to something because they werent good enough. If they wanted to try out for something, I would encourage them all the way. If they didnt make it, I would tell them it was ok, at least they were brave enough to try. Then, depending on how she felt, I would work with her, help her to practice and get better and make sure she had the confidence to try again! Isn't that part of our job as mothers? To help instill confidence and to teach them if they want it they can have it as long they put in the effort? Whatever it is they may want..
When I saw the previews, I thought Dr Phil would absolutely lay into that woman. My 7 yr old has said a few times "I'm fat". I was mortified! I certainly would NEVER ask her when the baby was due! Was anyone else diappointed in the way he kinda glossed over the things she said? I understand frustration, but in my experience, frustration comes right along with being a mother. You just have to be consistant(more stubborn than the kid..lol) I agree with you. I'm not buying that the first mother was "protective"; asking when the baby is due is absolute ridicule and very immature. I was surprised that Dr. Phil tried to make excuses for the mother by having her appear sympathetic, like she was well meaning. Maybe I'm being judgmental, but the mother resembled a hard, unsympathetic woman whom I, even as an adult, wouldn't want to show any weakness around for fear of being stomped on. It has to be difficult for a daughter suffering from low self-esteem to have a mother who is little more than just another bully. That daughter would have a lot of undiscovered talents but I remembered thinking when I saw her playing basketball that she'll never have the confidence to try to find her talent in front of a mother who puts her down. Our family had a 23-year-old woman relative die from anorexia earlier this year, so I just flinched when I heard that mother's remarks.
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