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Honey, he's into you, just not that into you! Living together is one thing, marriage is a whole other! He likes you to be around, maybe help financially, but he may never marry you. Some people are just that way. They don't want to be married. He may be with you til you die, he just doesn't want to be married! I am not saying I am right or wrong. Just my opinion! 

He is old school. I'm not pressuring him. I just wanted to know if he was on the same page as me at all. He recently told me that he too, gets excited when he thinks of a future for us and then said he thinks "Well, no, because I know how I can get" regarding work. I thought I made it obvious that we will still do our own things, living together or not. I see he's concerned about not being good at marriage as he said because of how he thinks he can irritate another person with his work habits and projects & getting wrapped up in them.  He's a creative person and that doesn't bother me at all. He also recently told me he's thought of everything regarding us, including kids. He said "Well, let's keep trying" when I told him I was concerned about us not wanting the same thing in life. I've met his family & like them very much and feel very comfortable with them. He's met my parents. He always includes me in family things. He wants me to meet his aunt and uncle in another state. My problem lies in how long do I wait? I don't want to break up with him. I pray for him every day and for us and have actually gotten some pretty strong spiritual signs that are positive regarding us staying together.  But also, it's cheaper to live together than alone. So that part I don't get.  

If this MAN is not ready to get married and YOU ARE, he is not the right man for you. If you two are so in love as you say, you would mutally agree that getting married is right for both of you.  I say this because after 9.5 years of dating the same man, being brainwashed that "he wasn't ready" and also got the excuse "for financial reasons", I finally learned that this is a SIGN and we are not destined to be together. I met a WONDERFUL man, and he and I both knew from very early on that we wanted to be married.  If you are getting excuses now, you are going to get them until the end of time. You then will be living your life, not how YOU want to, but how HE wants to.  And it is YOUR life too. 

And I am sorry, money is no excuse for true love. You can have the same love living in a small house than living in a big house. Money is no excuse. Sounds like you are getting alot of excuses about his past, past family, or whatever. I used to get the same. 

Bottom line. If he TRULY loved you, he would marry you. If that is what YOU WANT. You deserve to find someone with the same goals as you have.  Read the book "Hes not that into you" you will see. Good luck and don't compromise your goals for someone else. Make yourself #1.