Replies to 'Overcoming Grief'

I understand your pain and guilt. My son died of sucide in 2000. I am the one who found him. I feel tremendous guilt and it seems no one understands. Even mental health doctors say "get over it" But how does a mother do that? In my mind I know it was not my fault but my heart just aches and tells me something different.

I just wanted to let you know that there is someone out here that understands how you are feeling. I get so tired of people lecturing me on what I NEED to do and what I NEED to feel. They have not been through this horrible madness and they do not know how I feel.

Somedays are better and somedays are worse.

Peace and Love to you.

I know exactly how u feel.  My daughter lived next door to me when her husband committed suicide and left her to raise 2 babies on her own.  I knew my son in law was depressed but did nothing about it.  He gassed himself in their car in the garage.  I heard the car start at 2 am in the morning.  My first thought was that could be him doing what he did but thought no he wouldnt do that so i rolled  over went back to sleep.  After 4 years I am still tormented by the fact I didnt get up to check.  Its been a long road to some of the recovery I think it will take a long time to get over this family tragedy