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Quote From: scared5

Hi,I don't know where to start execpt by saying I read your message this morning and decided we were alot alike my situation is a little different.Last Tuesday after 18 years of marrige and two beautiful children 18 & 11.I approached my husband about his distancing from me he finally told me his head was confused and I asked if he still loved me he replied "yes" but doesn't know he wants to be married anymore.We have had issues of jealousy on his part and in return I know I am negitive to him especially when we are out with friends I think it's my way of hurting him back.I took my youngest and went to stay with my parents for a week.My oldest didn't want to come because of her own life with work and boyfriend.I did some real soul searching and I know what I want and what I done wrong so I came back here and I'm here for the weekend we have talked some but my husband was never taught to show emotion or affection from his family up bringing.I even had to tell my boss at work because we work at the same job(different shifts) and although my husband could go to weork and carry on my life had come to an end! My boss has been very suppportive and offered to help us both.I want to stay married I love him very much the hardest part is that he's a good provider,father and man he's just confused.I am all he has as his own family is wacko! I understand his low self esteeem and I'm trying to help him work through it but..... he doesn't yet know if even wants to seperate or not I cannot live here like we were but do not want to up-root my son and confuse him so for now he thinks we are vacationing at Nan's although I told him I needed a break from work because he was curious as I work full time.I thought maybe my husband was going through a mid life crisis because he wasn't always there for my oldest when she was little she just graduated and then he turned 39 we've been married since we were 17&21 so I thought that was it he says no and I do know it's not another women and he's shown and told me he loves me always will and will always protect me so what is it? Can anyone help me? Any advice please I'm so scared.I do know I can make it on my own that doesn't scare me what scares me is this being over when i love him so much am I reading too much into it? Should I try my best to save it or should I go and let him decide I'm scared if I do that then he changes his mind I might not want to come back for fear of it happening again.