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September 3, 2005, 7:00 pm PDT
 Quote From: bigred80 How is it that someone you don't know, can make you ask yourself the questions that you normally don't even acknowledge?
Three of your questions all made an impact on me. Fear of failure, fear of success and fear of standing out are for sure the things that are holding me back. I am a learn from mistakes person, that is one of the things that I have always lived by. As a student I was very scared of not being right, so I did nothing and only just graduated high school. So at some point I decided to ask more questions and let myself be wrong. Not only did I learn more, but I was happier with myself.
So now I am pretty certain that my two areas of concern are as always money and what I think is most important, stepping out of my comfort zone. Basically there are two options I am considering, one is to join the police force or two is to open a cafe in a newly developing local shopping center.
Two jobs, poles apart. But both are very enticing to me. But both are going to require a whole heap of commitment from me and that is where your questions hit home. To join the police force is going to require a lot of time and dedication, both of which will take me away from my family.
The Cafe option for me, although it would be expensive, is the safe option. As crazy as it seems this is also the scariest option. It is what I know, when I left school I studied to be a chef, and then took a job in hospitality in the defence force. I know I want to try something new and my own business would no doubt provide that, but if I get it wrong, my family looses, if I get it right, is it really what I want to commit my time to?
On the other hand if the police force doesn't pan out, we haven't lost anything. I just continue looking for another job.
It is crazy, a few years ago getting a job was all about me, now it is all about us. Nothing like some pressure to make you feel mad.
Thank you for helping me, it is good to have some wisdom. And someone to bounce my ideas off of.
Nat How do some people make you doubt yourself - easy - because they don't like themselves and they have to put others down.
I was like that in hight school too - till I found out that part of this problem was the fault of the teachers. Going into my senior year and after talking to my Uncle I became Me and let the chips fall where theymay.
If you don't step out of your confort zone - not only do you loose - but your family suffers.
The reason the police option is not scary is that you have nonething to loose - except your life in the line of duty. The police dept will provide everything - however you may too a large extent loose yourself.
The cafe is the scariest because You will have to provide everything and everything falls on your shoulders. However if you succeed walaa!!! If the cafe fails, your family will not loose they will still have you and I'll bet they will be supportive, and you will still have yourself.
On the one hand Nat - you and only you can make this decision - on the other let me know the pros and cons of each and I'll give you my opinion.
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September 4, 2005, 6:31 am PDT
Quote From: bigred80 How is it that someone you don't know, can make you ask yourself the questions that you normally don't even acknowledge?
Three of your questions all made an impact on me. Fear of failure, fear of success and fear of standing out are for sure the things that are holding me back. I am a learn from mistakes person, that is one of the things that I have always lived by. As a student I was very scared of not being right, so I did nothing and only just graduated high school. So at some point I decided to ask more questions and let myself be wrong. Not only did I learn more, but I was happier with myself.
So now I am pretty certain that my two areas of concern are as always money and what I think is most important, stepping out of my comfort zone. Basically there are two options I am considering, one is to join the police force or two is to open a cafe in a newly developing local shopping center.
Two jobs, poles apart. But both are very enticing to me. But both are going to require a whole heap of commitment from me and that is where your questions hit home. To join the police force is going to require a lot of time and dedication, both of which will take me away from my family.
The Cafe option for me, although it would be expensive, is the safe option. As crazy as it seems this is also the scariest option. It is what I know, when I left school I studied to be a chef, and then took a job in hospitality in the defence force. I know I want to try something new and my own business would no doubt provide that, but if I get it wrong, my family looses, if I get it right, is it really what I want to commit my time to?
On the other hand if the police force doesn't pan out, we haven't lost anything. I just continue looking for another job.
It is crazy, a few years ago getting a job was all about me, now it is all about us. Nothing like some pressure to make you feel mad.
Thank you for helping me, it is good to have some wisdom. And someone to bounce my ideas off of.
Nat Please please reconsider the cafe' option. I owned a restaurant for 15 years and it was a nightmare from day one. It was a 24/7 job with headaches coming from all sides at once. From licensing to taxes to scheduling to purchasing to advertising, to cleaning to maintenance and then of course, cooking, serving and filling in when other people fell apart......if you have a family, don't do it. Looking back on my life, if I only hadn't fallen into that trap. And working with your family makes it even worse. That time I spent cleaning grease traps- yes, fun stuff- when you own it, you do the stuff you can't hire others to do- is lost to me and I will never get it back. Now I sell sex toys at home parties through Black Diamond ent, work 2-3 nights a week, 4 hours a party and make a LOT more than I did working 80 hours a week at a cafe'- restaurant- owning the damn thing. Now I see my friends, my kids, my husband, I can read, garden, volunteer, do fun things. Would I ever go back- no no no noNONONONO!!!!!!! |
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