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September 3, 2005, 6:48 pm PDT
 Quote From: marcia52 Suze is more of an educator in finances ... She has you working thru your feelings & thoughts & most importantly your FEARS about money. She does introduce you to things like doing your will, creating trusts, insurances. Then she starts introducing you to investments. It's like Finance 101.
For me it was the fear I had to get over with - I was just so very very tired of sabotaging myself left and right. Answering her questions about my childhood & money was rather enlightening -- I've done Self Matters and it allowed me to LISTEN TO WHAT I WAS SAYING and to challenge the faulty thinking. It really was enlightening. I also like her words: CREDIT CARD DEBT IS BONDAGE. THAT I HAD CREATED A LIVING PRISON.
And I realized it was just so true! The fears that surfaced when I started to work on developing a plan to start paying down my debt and then do something about it was awful! I had so many fears popping up that I had to sit down and listen to them and work each one before I could finally take the 1st step - make a decision on which one gets paid off first!
Sounds like your ex- is more like me -- needs to do start at Finance 101. Sounds like you had a good sense of money being your servant than me.
I'm going to keep posting because it's a method of accountability. Especially if I feel shamed or embarrassed about something - I'd rather tell the world so I can move forward.
I gave myself 1 year to incorporate Self Matters into my life - then I gave myself 3 and took an early retirement to work out who I am. Not what I was told to be. It's the best thing I ever did for myself. I'm on month 9 now. I'm allowing myself to not push or shove any more. I want to explore what my purpose is, what do I want to for fun not profit. I like the simple life style.
However, I will learn to invest, I will learn to make money -- but I'm going to have fun doing it or else it's more like work than purpose.
Good luck on your project! Hope it turns out well. And let me know when you website gets published - I'll check it out. I can hear you growing by Leaps and Bounds!!!
As far as a good sense for money - I was never afraid of it - when I was little the prevailing wisdom was don't discuss money matter with your children - so any time I walked into a room where they were discussing money - they ushered me out - which just wanted me to know what they were talking about all the more!!!
My ex and I have almost totally opposite view on money and how to acquire it. I didn't get a really good sense for money till I starting listening to people who had it - even the wildcatters, renagades, and 'regular' people. Once I realized what they were saying - I almost totally lost my fears - just wanted to know more - then after reading Rich Dad - I totally lost any fears remaining I had - then it became 'full speed ahead'! I know your going to get there.
Marcia - you are sooo right - work out who you are - not what your told. You are right it has to be fun - there was a show about 4 years ago on those that had made it - and the one indegrinate was that they had fun doing what they did and making money at the same time - they didn't consider it work.
Rog
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