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September 5, 2005, 6:46 pm PDT

tell the truth

Quote From: kristylynn

Hi My name is Kristy. I am 25 years old and have one child. My husband and I adopted him from his sister.(So birth mom is Aunt) We have had him from birth he is now three years old. I was wondering how to explain to him he is adopted. I know that at three he will not understand but I would like to be ready for when it is time to tell him. I have been told by some people that he doesn't even need to know. I don't know if that would be ok or not. His birth mother does not want him to know. I feel that is not something that should be kept from him. Any suggestions??

Hi there,  

As the adoptive mum of two boys aged 10 and 11, I say tell him the truth! We started using the word apotion in ordinary conversation from the time our boys were tiny. We would say things like "I'm so glad we adiopted you" and "wow, its so cool God gave us you to adopt" we have found that in doing this and making it a natural part of our conversations, we have never had a problem with 'the big question' we talk about it regularly and naturally. I guess the hard thing is putting aside the natural anxiety we feel as adoptive mums. But you know when they are little, they just accept it as their specail stoiry. We also made a book for each of the boys when they were very small, telling their stories.  

 


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