Quote From: chantel2I have lived with an std for over 20 years. I was married for 18 of the 20 years. It was difficult in my marriage because my husband blamed me. I really believe he had it and gave it to me, but there is no way to prove it. It was one of the issues that finally dissolved our marriage (the other major issue was weight gain). Being single now is harder. Trying to be a responsible adult is not always easy. With the various websites, some are very scary and when you discuss it with a new partner -- their first reaction is how could you do this to me. I have lost several relationships due to this. Maybe in the long run, it was good that they ended so quickly but it makes it very hard to try again. I'm hoping to find someone who will really care about me as a person. Marriage, I'm not so sure I want to go there again. All I can say to singles is be careful -- really use the protection -- it is not worth the lifetime of hell afterward. What about the dating sites specific for people with std's? I've looked at them, but am afraid. I have also thought about match.com, but am afraid too. Saw the show on it and it made me more comfortable, but I have not taken the next step. :)
Hi yall,
I have had to deal with this. I never have sex with anyone without telling them first, and starting to use protection..but the guys generally give up the protection as time goes on. The main thing is to be honest with them...and see what happens..if they want to be with you..they will either use protecton and stay with you...or not use it and stay with you. Some dont seem too offended by it, and there are ways to test drive their reactions to things...esp...since this std gets all the bad jokes ever made of it. And considering i only had one outbreak EVER....its a load to carry and deliver..so a guys got to care about you to stay around after you tell him.
Just look at it this way.....if that runs him off...so would have cancer or you getting sick....he would not have been around till death do you part...really!! So not worth your time either.
I know the mental angish this all brings...i just hope what i have learned from others reactions helps you to relax and just think about how to enjoy your life and your sex life again...it can be done...i am sure of it.
