Quote From: alysha1221Let's see, where do I start? I was dating this guy we'll call "John". And after a while we finally thought we'd take our relationship to the next level and he proposed. Things were going GREAT, until he found out about something I had lied about in the past. I explained why I had done so and apologized. He was fine with that, but after a while things went bad. We started arguing over stupid pety things. Our engagment ended horribly after his mother died four months ago. Her death was hard on both of us and when he blamed it on me, I couldn't even look at him. He kept constantly calling me. It got to the point when it was 13-18 times in a row before he would finally leave a message. I had to change my phone number. I am over him now. And I thought I had finally found a nice guy for ONCE in my life, when he tells me that he is completely anti-girlfriend and completely against relationships. My relationship with this man isn't anything more then a "friendship with benefits". I go over to his apartment every once in a while and talk for about 20 minutes at the most with him and a few of his friends that are now friends of mine. Then we go to his room and have sex. Then I go home. And for a while it wasn't much more than that until I finally had the nerve to ask him what I meant to him. He went on to explain certain things about how he had been hurt too many times by women. But he says, "I care about you more than the other girls." Girls? I finally realized that I wasn't the only one dating this guy. But I know for sure I'm the only one he's sleeping with. I just don't know what to do about this situation. I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him or just keep doing what we're doing.
1. Do you have an "overall" feeling of happiness about the situation?
2. Would you be happy with things staying the way they are for the next 2,5, or 10 years? If not, break it off because he is not saying there is any possiblity of anything more.
3. Would it bother you to know that he was sleeping with other girls? If so, you need to end the relationship, because sooner or later he's going to (if he won't commit, then he will play the field). If not, go ahead and keep seeing him. The minute you decide that it bothers you.....you know what to do. Good luck.
P.S. Just don't get pregnant and use condoms every time. If you use them every time you will never have regrets later in life about not using protection......
