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You can have herpes without ever knowing it.  I too checked with the person I was with before my husband told me.  I found out that he did not have them either.  So you tell me, was I a carrier and did not know it and the previous person was just lucky or did I get them from my husband.  No one will ever no for sure.  I had a 2 yr relationship after my divorce and that person did not get them either -- and it was unprotected sex by his choice.

You can still have sex with your husband -- just use the medication and protection.  Don't go the rest of your life without sex -- unless that is what you really want or you think you are punishing him.  If he got this from someone within the last 3 years, you can bet if he isn't getting any sex at home he is out infecting other people.  Where do you want him?

Haven't had sex with your husband for 3 yrs because he has herpes?  That's about the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.  Either you are very ignorant or found a good excuse to cut him off.  If I were you I'd be more concerned about infidelity and/or HIV than herpes.  Trust me, your husband has not gone 1 yr. without sex, let alone 3.  He's getting it from someone .

My ex has herpies and told me right fromt he begining.  We did stop using protection and have a child. I have been tested many times and I never did get it.  We were together for over 7 years.

Don't be too quick to judge, he may not be lying!