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Quote From: emma08

Hi everyone, its been awhile since I've posted and boy alot has happened. Well I am still working 6 days a week, it was okay for the first month but now that all 3 of my kids are going to school, my 4-yr-old just started pre-k and my oldest is in 5th and my middle one is in 3rd, I hardly see them. They leave on the bus at 6:35am and get home around 3:40pm and I usually start work at 2pm and get home between 9:30pm and 10pm and by then they are in bed. But I have to do what I have to do to support my family. Perry hasn't gotten any work yet, he is still out of a job. Our cars' transmission has gone out so we don't have transpotation, my in-laws either let me use their van or drive me and that's becoming a problem for all of us. I found out that I have carpol tunnel syndrome and tyroid disease that has helped with my weight gain and other problems. Just when I thought life was begining to get better BOOM something else happens, what else is new, right? Well and of course we all know that things happen in three, so I also found out that my mom has been sick and her doctor is checking her colon for any problems, which is what my grandmother, my mom's mom died from, colon cancer! Then to top it off my husband and I got into a fight with the grandmother of  my niece and nephew, who has custody of them and who live 10 minutes from us over a very munute problem. See, my niece and nephew somehow caught head lice from somewhere last month, in early July and their grandmother did not know and they slept over by our house and my 2 daughters then were affected with it, but not our son nor my husband and I. Okay, she supposly treated them and so did we and anyone who has come in contact with head lice knows has titius it can be. We spent over $100.00 dollars on treating on children and ourselves, and that's not including the money we spent on laundry soap to wash ALL of our bedding, etc... It took us nearly a month to get them under control and our children's hair free of all lice and nits. Anyway the moral of me telling this is 2 days ago she called and asked if we can watch my niece while she ran her bus route, yes she is a school bus driver, and we gladly said yes, thinking she took care of the "problem". Well after she dropped her off I just wanted to make sure her head was clean and good lord it wasn't. Mind you my niece is only 3 years old, her head was full of nits(eggs) and live lice, I was shocked and disgusted. I wanted to treat her hair but did not have the money at the time to buy the shampoo, but I did pick out several of the live lice and nits. Anyway, when she came back to get her, my husband and I tried to explain that she was full of head lice and we tried to tell her what she needed to do and that it takes more then just washing their hair with the medicated shampoo. Plus my nephew has also started school and is in the same class as my 4-yr-old and other pre-schollers and head lice is very easy to catch, especially in close surroundings. We were very civil about it, but then she blew up and began to accuse us of giving it to them, which was not the case whatsoever. She began to yell, scream, cry and was just plain mean and hateful. She also lashed out saying she's trying to raise someone elses kids while pointing to me, my sister is their mother who has, I guess, given up her rights and their fater who is her son, is in jail and she took temporily custody of them 2 and 1/ 2 years ago thinking it was only temporily but my sister had a change of heart, which I don't agree with, but that's a whole other story. She, along with her husband, took this on thereselves and I have been helping them in everyone way I could. If I could adot them I would in a heartbeat, but its hard enough taking care of my own family let alone two more. Was it wrong of us to do and say what we did and said? It hurts me to see them, my niece and nephew, going through this, I'm not saying they are not doing a good job, but I'm sorry there is no excuse for that child to be so badly infested with head lice. Her grandmother drives a bus for 2 hours in the morning and 2 hours in the afternoon, how couldn't she not noticed that baby's head? Please tell me if it was right or wrong of me to have stepped in and put my foot down. There has been other times with oter issues where I never said anything, this time I had enough. Please, I don't know how to handle all this drama in my life, it is driving me crazy!! I don't know how to handle this and neither does my husband he was ready to call family services, but I can't seen them put in foster care, they are my flesh and blood and I love and care for them deeply. What can we do????? HELP!!!