Replies to '07/28 When Sexual Styles Don't Match'

Sure, sex is a wonderful gift to human-kind.  I am also a Christian woman - but acknowledge you are an atheist.  You ask for proof of such "myths" as disease, abortion, depression, neglect, drug-use, divorce, and adultery being so rampant in our current society.  Just the way males and females are made should be a clue.  Some sex styles are dangerous to physical health.  (Anal-sex.)  I mean, that's where feces are eliminated.  I would not wish to mingle my own sex organs with that area - simply because there would be unsanitary exposure to all kinds of foul elements and germs.  (Nor would I want to engage in sex with a man who has done that.)  Even if a person cleans out the area as well as possible, there are some organisms unseen or detected.  So I have avoided this kind of sex - not out of being fear-mongered, but for plain common sense and to protect my own health.  I have experienced yeast and bladder infections before - these are NOT STDs, but can be caused by a common cold virus or not drinking enough water.  They were bad enough!  So I would not be anxious to risk picking up any kind of STD either!  I know both homosexual and heterosexual couples engage in anal-sex.  It is a principal way for same-sex men couples to relate.  But as a Christian, when I also read that God detests that, it reinforces the fact that anal-sex is NOT for the human body.  Therefore, I have to agree that same-sex relations are not OK.  (This does NOT make me prejudiced against same-sex couples, nor would I refuse to talk to or do business with them.)    Of course this argument only involves males.  I also agree that females are subject to risks too because God does NOT want any unions except between man and woman.  He designed us in a special way.  But I don't expect you to go along with that.  It should be obvious enough how we are designed whether you believe in God or not.  You cannot dismiss, though, that disease is rampant and really got out hand when same-sex couples came out in the '80s.

You can choose to blow me off and say I am also a fear-monger.  With or without God being brought into it, our bodies are not designed for that kind of sex.  When it is engaged, germs and organisms spread and result in terrible diseases.  That's plain fact to me.  Believing in God or not, it is a dirty and unsafe act.  Is that any kind of proof for you?

Marriage is a commitment.  You're right - a piece of paper does not keep people from becoming disenchanted with each other enough to cheat or divorce.  When children are brought into the world, they need a strong support and care system.  Marriage is designed to provide this.  Of course you and I will disagree on what constitutes a marriage nowadays.  Life can be created only between man and woman.  So, when a heterosexual couple produces children, then what?  If they are married there is some kind of commitment involved.  Of course that commitment can be broken if someone feels like it - but is that really OK?  Then one parent is left to deal with the kid(s) alone - and that creates new problems and struggles.  This also leads to unsupervised periods and kids can get into trouble - like drugs, sex, crime, the possibilities are endless.

Just because sex feels so good is not an excuse to use it so irresponsibly.  Girls casually get pregnant and then seek an abortion to end it.  Or girls just don't know how to say "NO".   And guys are very good at persuading girls to have sex outside of marriage.   Nothing is as sweet as forbidden fruit.  When multiple partners are involved (as is SO popular), that creates lots of risk for someone to transmit an STD.  Some of the partners may be clean and disease-free.  But others have picked up undetected germs or organisms and pass them on!  Creating human life should be avoided altogether until a couple can become commited enough to raise children together.  That's the argument for abstinence.  And it is also God's plan for us.  A marriage license is a symbol that reminds the couple of the lifetime commitment to each other and their future family.

I'm not trying to come across as a panic-instigator - just stating some pure and simple facts.  This may not be enough evidence for you, and no one may be able to prove anything to your satisfaction.  I just wanted to join the discussion.