Quote From: sungloblue Brat is a nice way to put it . Have you meet my SD cause everything you said is SOOO true. She has never had respect for her mom , dad or anyone else. BUT when she turned 18 I stopped letting her treat me like trash and started telling her the real in your face deal and she HATES me for that. We would really like to help guild her in the right direction so she can be happy but nothing is ever good enough for her. She is very smart and could do anything she puts her mind to.But she is also very hard headed to anything we have to say. Do we need to just let her go and hope she finds her way or what?? This has been going on for 2yrs now. How do you help them find there way?
Let me be very straight forward - your first major mistake was waiting till she was 18 before you tried to put a stop to her behavior. Remember what Jay has said on his dads show - kids don't want to loose - believe it or not she is listening to you, but she doesn't want to loose.
As for hard headed - I am a left hander - so we think differently - if she is left handed - this is one of the reasons and also her personality comes into play. If she is as smart as you say she is - the other problem could be that she is not being challenged enough.
I don't know how close she is to her 21st birthday, but if it's close she could be counting the days, just like I did. Do you let her go - good question - she is either crying out for help - or shes counting the days. I don't know what the law says in your state about age, but I do know that at 21 thats it. No matter what - just don't you and your husband give up.
Keep me posted. Rog
