Replies to 'Empty Nest Blues'

 I actually feel very proud that my son is independant, responsable like i said before i have lots to feel good about my boy and the only thing is you never expect that when u have a relationship that is good in every way with your child , without an explanation he just breaks all contact with you. I think you are a young girl Wolfie and that is why you see it from the perspective of a young adult. I was young once lol, i still feel very young and I am very active , but when you have a kid then is different, i left my mom , all my family in Costa Rica and came to live in usa then all over the place in erurope but i always made sure to keep contact with my mom, not only on mothers day like many people do, every day we should tell our love ones we love them, every time i spend time with friends or famly i wish them well and try to be pleasant and enjoy their company. I dont want to have to wait in my dead bed to see if my son will show up and tell me again, miss you mom or love you mom. Is not hard when the kids leave the home, true enough is an empty space, but my goal i reached with him, he has the tools and good morals and values to do good in life, all i wished was to have our relationship like it was before, a call here and there and talk about whatever, for a mom like me, just to hear his voice is a big help, yeah i do call his number and just listen to his voice. That is all I have at the moment and I just hope once he matures and has his first kid will realize how much i love him and how sometimes we parents might do the wrong thing with the best intentions in the heart, If there was a school to be the best mom i can be , ill be the first one ti sign in but we moms are humans too and make mistakes. I make sure if i offend my kids or anything i do wrong i m humble to say I m sorry , and listen to them. But again, one never knows what life will bring along the way.............
  I read here so many stories that make me realize I m not the only one suffering, i do go thru pain inside, so deep, so strong, but take one day at the time and my memories, with my son and seeing him grow up into the man he is today that noone will ever take away from me.

   Though to kids that might read this, yes we all leave the nest, and yes it is hard for moms specially, but one gets used to it, and is actually nice to have time to yourself. But never hurt your parents, one never knows if that was the last day you see them and at least in my heart I know if i loose my mom im absolutly sure probably last thing i ve said to her is thanks mom for being a pain in the past and shaping me into the mom i am today, and I love you old lady! So no mean no worries!!!!

  In any case i recomend to all to plant something, i plant tomatoes, they are like i said my new pass time kind of activity and it does help, they are grateful, little water and they look so nice! tall growing strong, each one is like a new life that you keep going until you see the fruits and enjoy, pure content and enjoiment!

Thanks Wolfie though! for your coment, believe me nothing i want for my kids but to see them find their path in life and have a good one!